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writes:Hello aunts! I am 21, have a girlfriend for 2 years and I love her more than my life. I am in deep heart ache these days recieving each romance restriction from my girlfriend every other day. 1st of all, she is never willing to go on a date with me. After repeated requests about 5 to 6 times, she agrees to go once or twice in a month. And when we are set, she starts saying "Should we leave now? Should we leave now?" but in a cute way. But that hurts. She never kisses, never cuddles, it has been 2 years. We haven't have sex because it is difficult to do that in our culture. But guys, even here also, use girls for sex and ditch them but I never tried any such things with her. However other things (everything other than sex) are very common in every couple here also. Yesterday, after my repeated attempts of 3 times, she finally kissed me for merely a second and said "No more". I felt really hurt. And at night in a text, she told me that she hates kissing. I cried myself to sleep thinking that I have spent these 2 years with her doing everything she loved, making her laugh everyday by my stupid jokes, holding her books so that she must not be tired, rushing to get something for her to eat that she liked, being there each secong for her and she does not even want to look deep into this guy's eyes with affection and kiss????? What should I do? Her cold beatings have killed me in these 2 years but I dont get the courage to cheat her even because I love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Hey, you seem a really nice guy. Its sad that this girlfriend of yours is not treating you right. I'm somewhat familiar with your country's culture and social restrictions. Although I would not think having sex before marriage is a wise thing to do, just a little more showing of affection can do a relationship a lot of good. I guess you better talk to this girl and ask her what exactly is going on her mind. Is she averse to all kissing and hugging? Well, in that case you better dump this girl and find someone who is more compatible. We should be happy in the relationship we are. If you have to work so hard to get just one kiss or a date from your girlfriend, well, maybe she does not deserve you. Think about it. After all its a very beautiful time of your life you may be wasting one someone who does not appreciate what you do.
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reader, ellie:) +, writes (3 November 2009):
 u sound like a great guy! any girl should and probably would be glad to kiss u... i would say dump her and find a new girl that would be glad to kiss u!!!
GOOD LUCK tell me how it goes :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 November 2009):
 Are you sure she thinks of you as a boyfriend? She sounds like she treats you as a platonic friend.
I don't know the culture there well enough to advise you, but I think you two might have very different ideas as to what a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship entails.
Unfortunately, there is no magic way to make someone love you. If there were, we would all know about it!
I think you might consider what it is you actually see in a woman who seems so cold to you. Is it the dream of her, rather than the reality of her? In other words, you are imagining all these things about her, when in fact she is an ice cold woman and always will be?
My advice is to talk to her about it. I would also talk to your mother, if I were you. She would know the culture and might be able to give you some idea of what goes on inside a woman's head.
Good luck.
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reader, LOVE6495 +, writes (3 November 2009):
sweetie, i feel you pain. and i understand that it must be VERY hard! but if your not getting the love you need, talk to her. and if she dosent take you seriously or keeps on being cold. DUMP HER, sweetie, someone like you needs a sweet- warm blooded woman that can givine you all the love you need!
take my advice and talk to her. or dump her! tell me how it goes!! GOOD LUCK!
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reader, openmind +, writes (3 November 2009):
First of all you need to ask her what is going on. From what i have just read you havent done that. Its a hard thing to do but you need to ask her if she is happy with you or not. If she isnt you have to let her go because she will only continue to be miserable and with drawn from you. Also it may not be anything to do with you she might just have something going on and having a hard time dealing with it try talking to her first and asking her whats up. If you ar still confused come back on here with what she has said to you and i will try my best to help you.
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