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*sav9256
writes:I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years now and we hardly have sex anymore. she had cervical cancer last summer and since then shes never been in the mood for sex.. is it something i did or what should i do?[Moderator's Note: Poster is a female aged 20]
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reader, miss lilian  +, writes (5 November 2009):
 You didn't do anything, she has probably gone through a whole range of emotions and is still coming to terms with having had cancer. The best option is to talk to her about it. Also give her the choice to just keep it at kissing and foreplay to begin with, to rekindle the romance with out putting pressure on her to have to go further.Remind her how beautiful she is, her self esteem in regards to being a woman may have taken a beating. Showing her you are willing to do this will also show her how much you respect her and still find her desirable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): girls dont like sex all the time.
you should take her out more, like shopping, cinema or for a meal and tell her how beautiful she is and that you love her, and that you just dont love her for sex, that is what she might think
good luck
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 November 2009):
You haven't done a thing. She had cancer, so is probably feeling very vulnerable about her apprearance down there if she had any kind of operation, and she's probably terrified that it might come back. Talk to her gently about how she feels. Don't pressure her into anything, and just reassure her and give her time. She needs to know she's loved.
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