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anonymous
writes:dear all , i need you help here ,,, my story like Romeo and Juliet.Im 30 and my girlfriend is 24 and we have been together for neary 4 years. she live in Indonesia and i live in another country, we deal to married but because the rules of the government that they request agreement to agree about this married from my country but my country not agree , we stay binding like that about almost 2 years , during that i visit her many times we smile we have fun with her family ,,,,even i bring her job in bank for her , but after that she become very busy and under push also .however , since last week she avoid my call, sms , and when ask some friend of her , to ask her "why ?" he said "she avoid my calling because i push her to married quickly and she need time to think "i send after 5 days flowers to her office then she sms me "thank u for the flowers", then i send her flowers yesterday again with card i say in it "i can't live without you" but still i didn't receive any update from her ,i saw that she have face book , she contact her friends , but i didn't see our pic inside her page .what should i do now , should i send flowers or wait for 1 week to give her time or what good idea ,,,,should i make page in Facebook and i put our pic and type to her so can all her friends see our pic , or should i type to all her friends that i love this girl much much ?please help in this case ...regards
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 your actions currently are suffocating and pressurising her,how? well the overt gestures of supplication,being excessively nice buying her flowers constantly and sending all forms of sweet messages,being excessively available and that sort of thng with expectation of her +vely respnding to you. your being very needy n women despise neediness especialy frm the man in her life and the spark of attraction she felt for you is slowly fading,im not sure she is seeing some1 else as well or not but what you need to do now is back off! give her space n when she is ready she will come to you.what you are doing now is pressurising her n going on this way will only serve to push her further away. all the best
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reader, Aunty Abzy  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 It sound too me like she doesnt want too marry at all, if she is avoiding you it is for a reason, i suggest you sms or phone her and demand an answer ! You shouldn't be kept in the dark as she may be finding it difficult that you's live far from each other. Have you considered there may be someone else in her life ? She may not want too hurt you hence why she is avoiding you.
You seem like a very lovely man, who knows how to treat a woman correctly. I suggest you find out whats going on with her and move on, find someone you love close to where you stay.
Good luck and i hope everything gets sorted out xx
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