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writes:pretty sure my girlfriend (or ex now as of today) of two years, met someone else. she called me and broke things off this afternoon saying that she loves me a ton but just doesn't know if we could ever work because we constantly fight. and that she feels it's best we move on because we stopped doing all those little things for one another she feels are so important. that she was scared to miss me but that she just thought it needed to happen.i tactfully said okay, despite being heart-broken over being dumped after i planned a romantic evening out with her tonight to celebrate. and spent a lot of money on her, as well. we got off the phone and i went for a drive. i relaxed and thought things over and in my heart i knew she'd met someone else. i could just feel it. so i sent her a text quoting:"i want you to know i'm certain you met someone else who is doing all those "little things" for you. and now you're leaving me after everything we fought for in pursuit of something else. and you're scared that you're going to make a mistake by breaking up with me and regret it. i genuinely hope you don't because there is no going back this time. once i get home i am going to erase you from my life permanently (block from phone and facebook, etc). i really hope you made the right decision. and i swear to you on my soul that this is the last thing you will ever hear from me personally for the rest of my life. goodbye."i meant what i said. i am hurting but my head and heart both know i will never go back ever again. i genuinely don't want to hear from her ever again. i want to forget she even exists. i don't want to know her, she hurt me that bad. but she then started blowing up my phone after i sent that text saying please don't be like that, and could we please just meet and talk face to face. she's called numerous times in the last few hours. i continue to ignore her and just send it to voicemail. what the hell does she want from me??? why in the world would anyone break off a relationship, then start calling over and over and want to meet to talk??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): SO glad i could help!! And so glad that you see you deserve better and that she is being pathetic. It's ugly now, but it does die away and hopefully one day she will grow up haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): I agree with anonymous.
When you sent that text to her.. It made her say ohh shit. She got scared NOT because of her breaking up with you, Could be number of reasons why she wanted to talk to you. She could have been a spoiled B**** by her ex's and they (By the sounds) Has never said that to her before. 2- You caught her being unfaithful,Which by the sounds yes. 3-She could be a controller. And she likes to play with heads.
Im proud what you did. Good for you. And I hope you find a good girl who actually wants to be with you,Threw thick and thin. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your replies. i really appreciate the feedback. a little update. she called me again this morning and once i ignored her she began texting my roommate who isn't hardly friends with her. all afternoon she's been talking to her. telling her at first that she's upset and confused and then that she felt it was the best decision, etc. i eventually told my roommate to please stop responding. to just let her go, as i felt she was only using my roommate as an indirect line of communication with me to find out how i feel since i'm not speaking to her. i'm not all about playing games. to me, she ended the relationship and i'm working towards moving on.
once my roommate ended the convo and said goodbye, she waited a few minutes then asked how i was. was i okay? my roommate informed her yes - while getting annoyed - that i was okay. my ex then made a slightly bitter comment a moment later saying that i was going to just wind up with this other girl i'm friends with anyway so it didn't matter. i insisted my roommate cut the lines of communication right there and not write back anymore. she's acting extremely immature and childish. i think the anonymous reader may be spot on actually. i think everyone else gave her too much credit for maturity. i think she was expecting me to come crawling back and kiss her ass. and when i didn't, she starting freaking out and blowing up my phone. and when i wouldn't answer she began on my roommate who she never talks to.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 Im sorry to our anonymous friend but i dont believe its as simple as a loss or changing hands of power.
I agree that you maybe wrong it think their is someone else and she would like to explain why that is not true to you in person.
I also believe fear is a big factor, i think she may have thought you two would still talk or be friends and now she is scared because she is going to lose you completely.
It is up to you if you want to talk to her but i know i would want the closure.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (10 June 2011):
 Maybe she calling because the conclusion you have come to (about her having met someone else) just isn't true...
She may just need to explain to you exactly whats going on. But it your choice whether or not you give her that chance. If you don't want to, then that's fine. But if you do then let her say what she has to say, then make your decision from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2011): She has lost the power. In you sending that text, you pretty much just showed that you have taken back all your power and control, which she will not like as she must've enjoyed the power trip.
She knew she hurt you and liked being the one to make the decision, and now when she sees you aren't going to go grovelling back to her she has suddenly lost her bravo.
Good on you :)
Continue to ignore her, follow through if that's what you really intended to do (ignore her), otherwise you will come across very weak if you suddenly communicate back with her.
Have a happy life!
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