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writes:Ok well i've been seeing this girl for almost 6 months now, and well her mom found out bout us yesterday and told me to stay away from her and that i couldn't see or talk to her anymore. The good thing is, is me and her work together but then again its hard too cause we love eachother so much. Theres an 8 yr. difference in our age but the way i look at it is age is just a number just like miles are just numbers to make people think they are far away when they really aren't ya know.? So i'm tryin to stay positive bout the situation and well its gettin harder and harder each day cause theres really havn't been a day that we've spent apart and yesterday was the first time and it killed me. I didn't know what to do with the time that i had on my hands besides bein at work. I can risk goin to prison for 15-25 yrs. cause of my love for this girl. She turns 17 on Nov. 26th thats 3 months away should i indeed stay away and just see her at work or should we see eachother and talk to eachother outside of work and make her mom think we don't see or talk to eachother anymore? I don't know what to do. HELP ME!!!! Anyways, if ya'll can help out please do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): If you love her and are willing to commit yourself to her no matter then nothing matters, I love a girl 6 years younger than me and I will do anything for her.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Hi im in the same situation as you but im the girl. Im too scared to tell my parents yet so please update us with how it goes it's nice to know im not the only one out there with this problem. thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): hi there! i am going through the same situation as you.
my girl is 17 yrs old and i am 25. at the very begining she was just very afraid of her dad and so i was. but i invited them to my house to spend time together (all her family and mine) it was just great!! but first i showed mature personality and mainly seriousness towards her.at the end her dad accepted our relationship. i care deeply about her! do yr best with her and youll see!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (14 August 2008):
 You can either do two things: go up to her mother and speak things through like an adult or take her warning and wait until she's 18.
Now, some people said to follow your heart, yes that's nice, but you follow your heart would mean for you landing on jail as the mother would probably accuse you of satuatory rape if you get any near her daughter.
And I don't blame her from freaking out like this. You're an adult, in anohter world from her daughter, so what would you want with her daughter? In her mind (in most people's minds, actually), you're the bad guy, the one who will only use this girl and dump her when the exitment ceases. So prove her wrong. Go up to her and talk things through. Be an adult and try to come with a compromise with the mother. She needs to know that you're with her because you love her and not because you will end up using her.
When you do this, try to be as calm as possible, even if she screams and yells at you. You have to prove to her that you're serious about your intentions with her daughter and that you're a mature person who knows what he's doing. Also, it will be good if you chose what you were going to tell her before hand and tried to memorize it. This way you will be to the point and would probably convince her even more.
If she is just unreasonable, then you will have no other option than wait for your girlfriend to become 18 because her mom will probably land you to jail if you get close to her. It's better to wait another year to be with her than to wait 15 years to be with her. If you two are meant to be together, then the two of you will wait for each other.
I'm sorry you're in this situation, but deep down you could have seen it coming. Not many parents are happy when their children date people way older than them, and although age really doesn't matter, at this time of HER life, it sadly does. Good luck and I hope the best happens for the two of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): So, you are 24 or 25 and trying to date a 16 year old. Why? That is kind of a big difference at that age. I think you guys could talk at work, but no sexual contact. Maybe wait it out for the next 3 months... Also, why does a 16yr old girl appeal to you? Why are you not hanging out with people your own age? I assume she is still in High school and she lives with her mom. What do you guys talk about? Gym class and curfews?
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 did the mom give any reason besides your age as to why you need to stay away?
if you are so crazy about the girl, i say either sneak around with her which isn't the preferred option, or try to make nice with the family.
bring the mom flowers and invite her to coffee with your girlfriend so the 3 of you can get to know each other and get along better. dress nicely and have your girlfriend invite you to a family dinner.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): just follow your heart
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