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36-40,
*iser
writes:Relationship has finally ended after 7 months and this is the third time we have split. The day before valentines day and 2 weeks before my 21st birthday. We had an hour chat over the phone.Her feelings no longer exist for me, she has tried hard to get them back but they haven't returned. She says she is not willing to make an effort to create that spark and this happened with all her other BF'S. Seems she is too young to be tied down and wants to sample the scenery. I am utterly heartbroken but I knew it was inevitable due to her almost complete withdrawal and blowing hot and cold on me. She does want to remain friends it seems. Not sure this is wise!!! She is going on holiday soon and her ex will be there so who knows? I am also going away. So it will give us both time knowing we cant contact each other. Hurts like hell though being rejected when the memories i will treasure for ever of my first love.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Good for you ;o) Go out there and get someone who WILL love you the way you deserve to be loved and don't waste any more time on her, she's only playing with your emotions.
Eve
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reader, Jiser +, writes (13 February 2007):
Jiser is verified as being by the original poster of the question 2 :), she hasn't even told her family yet! hoho they all liked me. O well her loss. I got plenty planned. Onwards and upwards, no freinds and no getting back together, the horrible girl.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (13 February 2007):
It's always sad when a relationship breaks up, especially for the one on the receiving end who has to pick up the pieces and move on alone but hey... it happens all the time, you're not a single statistic but one of thousands. You have 2 options here -
1. Wallow in your own misery and try to keep her memory of what you had alive
OR
2. Picking yourself up, dusting yourself down, remembering the good times and moving on with your life.
Always remember, things happen for a reason! She wasn't right for you - think about it.... I mean REALLY think back... she's split with you twice before, does that not tell you something? And even if you think she's all that, she obviously has issues about how she feels about you. Don't beat yourself up about it love. Put it down to experience and move on. You'll meet someone else in time, we sometimes have to kiss a lot of toads before we find the princess. ;o)
So what are you going to go for... Option 1 or Option 2?
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): Well, just put it down to experience and it is better to finish now as later on into the relationship. The end of all relationships hurt but more so for you when you feel rejected. Don't dwell on it though, i know it is easiest said than done, but please do try and get out there with friends. You will meet someone really lovely in the future. You will be older and i hope wiser, and the whole thing will be a whole lot better. You are both young, and she has decided that she is too young to settle for you. Don't think there is anything wrong with you, so don't beat yourself up. Just be grateful for her honesty. If she hadn't of done that , then later disatistifaction could of lead to her cheating on you. Either way, you cannot make a person love you or want to be with you. We have all been through this, i know, you are raw for a while, but it does mend and when it does, life feel so GOOD!!
TAKE CARE
xx
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