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writes:Has anyone out there got any experience of dealing with Erectile Dysfunction in their husband. Did it take a long time for the husband to admit he had a problem and what treatment did he get. I suspect my husband has got a form of ED, he can get an erection and he can finish only in the doggy fashion though, he will say "that was hard work" I always wondered why he said that, then it is months before he will try again, but much to my frustration he keeps saying he is alright and there isn't a problem or he would tell me. I think he has been hiding this for months, is it possible for him not to know that he has a problem and thinks that it is normal, though it never used to be like this, he was once a three times a week guy, he is now 48 yrs old, is he too young to have ED. Any tips on how I can subtly get him to acknowledge the problem,I don't want to embarrass him thanks for any advice.
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reader, shanewarn +, writes (18 February 2012):
There are a number of treatments for erection problems. Doctors usually start with lifestyle changes and medicines. They usually don't advise surgery or other treatments unless those first steps don't help.Treatment can include:• Making lifestyle changes, such as avoiding tobacco, drugs, and alcohol. It may also help to talk about the issue with your partner, do sensual exercises, and get counseling.• Finding and then stopping medicines that may be causing the problem. In some cases you can take a different medicine that does not cause erection problems.• Taking prescription medicine that can help you get erections. These include pills such as sildenafil (Viagra), tadalafil (Cialis), and vardenafil (Levitra). Check with your doctor to see if it is safe for you to take one of these medicines with your other medicines. These can be dangerous if you have heart disease that requires you to take nitroglycerin or other medicines that contain nitrates.• Taking medicines and getting counseling for depression or anxiety.• Using vacuum devices or getting shots of medicine into the penis.• Having surgery to place an implant in the penis.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Erectile disfunction is a common problem for at least one in every ten men in the UK. It's thought that 70 per cent of cases have physical causes and the remaining 30 per cent have psychological causes. Most men experience occasional erectile failures at some time in their lives as a result of fatigue, stress, or excessive alcohol consumption. Physical causes include diabetes, high blood pressure, blood vessel damage, nerve damage, trauma, heavy smoking and side effects from medication. Psychological causes include stress, depression, sexual or relationship worries.
Physical problems are the cause of the majority of Erectile disfunction cases, with psychological problems only causing a small percentage.
In most cases the physical cause is that there simply isn't enough blood flow to the penis. This may be caused by high blood cholesterol, diabetes, stress, smoking, and excessive alcohol intake.
There are a number of treatments available which include - ORAL - (TAKEN BY MOUTH) TREATMENTS
These include medications like Cialis, Viagra, Levitra, and Uprima.
GEL TREATMENT
A medicated gel containing prostaglandin is inserted into the urethra (eye of the penis), absorbed from within and begins an erection 3-5 minutes later. In this case stimulation is not required. Due to the method of application though, this form of treatment is not very popular.
INJECTION THERAPY
At 95 per cent, this method has the best success rate but is not to every ones liking. A prostaglandin or MIX is injected into a site around the base of the penis, allowing the blood to flow into the penis. This method works within 3-5 minutes and does not require stimulation to get an erection. Injection therapy also has a high success rate in severe cases of premature ejaculation. The medication allows you to ejaculate and still maintain an erection afterwards.
You need to talk to him though, is he stressed or anxious about anything and maybe isn't telling you? Does he find it hard to maintain an erection even when stimulated by hand? Let him know that this is a very common problem even for men in their twenties and can be rectified easily with treatment.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): ED almost certainly comes down stress, stress, stress.Popping a pill is easy (and even easier now that it can be bought over-the-counter) but you are best off seeing how his work is, and his his health and diet is and addressing these through communication. Viagra will not cure any health or psychological reasons for why he has become this way.I guess the best way you can get him to acknowledge the problem -or at least get on the subject- is to talk to him at the right time. You need to come out directly and ask him if he feels there is a problem. It could be something other than ED, I can think of a few things but all can be fixed through communication, reducing stress and improving diet. When you refer to him saying "that was hard work" if he is thinking that whilst he is having sex then I can understand why this is a problem for him; and you. When he starts having thoughts like that, sex becomes little more than a physical act that he needs to "complete" whereas it should rather be more about mutual sharing of intimacy. For him to feel like this would be a reason why he has these problems. You need to get closer through communication and for you both to move away from concentrating on the pentrative aspect of sex and more on to touch, kissing etc.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I would just be matter of fact about it, if YOU aren't embarassed then he won't be. Just say "Honey you don't have to work so hard, get the doctor to give you a prescription for Viagra". It certainly isn't something to be ashamed of and Viagra works great. Good luck!
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