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*ustaguy999
writes:My girlfriend has gone away and i miss her loads. We have a very active sex life and she will be away for a month and a half. I have thought about masturbating but i'm not sure if its okay to or not. Also, if i do and i use porn to help, is that cheating on her? I would never dream of doing such a thing, but i feel pleasuring myself is easier with visual help and i wasn't sure whether it is actually cheating just looking at pictures. Please help.thanks for your time.
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reader, Hazel1  +, writes (4 September 2008):
i like your question because your asking before doing but you should be asking your girlfriend, masturbation is healthy and nearlly everybody does it. i have a problem with my partner watching porn because he lies about having it and watching it. you should try taking pics of your girlfriend maybe in the bedroom or dressing up so you have something to look at when shes not there? but if your going to watch porn she may get hurt if you dont tell her and that might cause a problem so dont be secretive about it. i do like the honesty from you and can tell you really do love your girlfriend and i wish you the best out of life with her.
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reader, Rocket Man +, writes (11 August 2008):
Masturbation is not cheating. It is a natural act that both men and women do along with still getting themselves off while married. Sometimes my wife and I masturbated each other which is fun. If I were still your age, I would not be able to keep myself from it. I started around age 11 and remained a virgin until I married at age 31. I think the reason I can last so long in lovemaking is the years I developed such good control through masturbating. I'd suggest, think about her, remember some of your really hot times and get your rocks off.
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reader, justaguy999 +, writes (7 August 2008):
justaguy999 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice. I can understand your points and I must admit that the pictures would be more of something that helps me imaging me doing those things with her. I just need help to actually imagine and visualize it. Thank you all for answering, it is very much appreciated :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 August 2008):
Masturbation is not cheating, but I would be unhappy if my hubbie looked at porn. Haven't you got any pictures of her?
I've no doubt you've seen her naked to find a picture of her and remember what you have seen, and imagine what you'd like to do.
All she wants to know is that it's her in your head.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Not technically cheating but for some women it is a violation of trust. If you're concerned about her feelings, I suggest you bring it up to her before you do it, that way she will feel respected and thought of. Don't do it behind her back and lie about it, it won't do any good to your bond. Explain the situation to her. Hell, if you're lucky, maybe she'll send you some naughty photos of herself to help you along.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (7 August 2008):
 It's refreshing to hear you sound so considerate. Your girlfriend is a lucky lady. I, personally, don't think it is cheating to release your load to a good porn, but some ladies do. If it is really a concern of yours, ask her if she would be offended if watched one without her while she was gone. Tell her you were thinking of her, and it made you so randy that you are considering watching one with her in mind. Make sure to tell her that it wouldnt be something you considered if she were there, but right now you miss her mentally and physically. If the pair of you truly have a good, healthy sex life together, I would think she would understand;)
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