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writes:my girlfriend and i have been together for a over a year . she is four months pregnant with our baby and she recently left me and staying with a friend. but she still says she still wants me and to come see me every now and again . i am confused and hurt. she acts like she wants me but dont want to be around me . its hurt me alot not being around her and i am scared that she will stay away from me to were the relationship will fall apart . i want to be the best father that i can . i need some advice bad !!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Charlie84 +, writes (30 September 2008):
You two need to discuss whats going on in this relationship. Why she left. What would happen if you two got back together. Your feelings for one another. Everything that comes to mind.
My 11 week pregnant girlfriend has actually just pulled the same thing with me. Our relationship was rocky with its highs and lows. Ultimately she felt that I wasn't being supportive enough and is leaving in 3 days for Oregon, across state lines, to live with her Mom.
Finding out that you have a child on the way is a big deal. Its nerve racking to say the least. She may be scared you're not there for her. She may be running from things. You never know until you talk it all out.
Can tell you that time apart will most likely bring you closer together if its truly want you two want. Just show her that you're there for her and never back down in wanting to be in the child's life. This will show her you do care for both her and the child, and if unfortunately you two do not get back together you'll have more of a case in court when trying to get custody rights to the child.
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reader, lady davinci +, writes (7 August 2008):
Why did she leave you? It doesn't make sense for a pregnant female to just up and leave the baby daddy for no reason. If you can honestly say you didn't do anything to provoke that behavior then you need to talk to her one on one. Make sure other people do not stick their noses in you alls business 'cause that can only lead to mess and both of you going against what your feelings. Honestly ask her what's up. A woman getting pregnant then just leaving the father seems weird. There has to be a reason.
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reader, takeoutthetrash +, writes (7 August 2008):
ok what i think u should do is confront her and tell her what you are feeling. she needs to kno that you want to be in your baby's life and you want to be with her. Just tell her what your feeling.
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