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writes:My girlfriend and i were dating for a year and i broke up with her on our one year anniversary due to constant fighting and other bullshit. (nothing big though) after i realized that i shouldnt have been so quick to let her go, i quickly asked her to forgive me and work it out. However, she said she needed more time. A month later we got back together and she told me she had sex with a co-worker about 4 or 5 times during our breakup and they started having sex not even a week and a half after we broke up.
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reader, fdae +, writes (6 November 2009):
I'm in the exact same situation you are. One year anniversary is coming in 2 weeks. I broke up with her not so long ago, and a week later she sleeps with a different guy. Things will never be the same. You should think about that. Since you guys are fighting a lot, you should just end it but if you can't because you're lonely or you're afraid it will take you a long time to find someone else, it will be hard to jump back into it. I don't think she's the right person for you because I'm in the same boat, I don't think the girl I'm with is right for me but I don't want to be lonely. I think you only want to stick around not because you love her but because you don't want to be lonely. She doesn't love you either because she wouldn't do that to you no matter what. Even if she's lonely or hurt, they would give you enough respect for that. So I think you should end it, just like me. It's not worth getting into arguments and stress out about it because you don't want to feel lonely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Look I had a gf for six years. I was competely faithful to her and she broke up with me using some text messages I received from a girl as an excuse to do so. She started hookin up with someone a couple of weeks after the breakup eventhough she said she was heartbroken. She had sex with someone else only a week after a year long relationship, that to me just shows weakness and a lack of respect for herself. I understand that one has needs both physical and emotional but is that all girls and guys for that matter care about? Is it really just about sex? Couldnt she take some time and let her heart heal properly before just being another girl on that guys board. Do girls even care about that anymore, do they care about just being another piece of ass to some guy? She told you she needed some more time...yeah she needed more time but not to think about giving you another chance she needed more time with the other guy in his bed. She wanted to get some more NEW sex before going back to you. Buddy my ex and I tried to get back together after all the stuff I knew she did and let me tell you it was a disaster. Of course everyone is different and maybe your situation is different but let me tell you it will be extremely difficult. Hope things work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Look I had a gf for six years. I was competely faithful to her and she broke up with me using some text messages I received from a girl as an excuse to do so. She started hookin up with someone a couple of weeks after the breakup eventhough she said she was heartbroken. She had sex with someone else only a week after a year long relationship, that to me just shows weakness and a lack of respect for herself. I understand that one has needs both physical and emotional but is that all girls and guys for that matter care about? Is it really just about sex? Couldnt she take some time and let her heart heal properly before just being another girl on that guys board. Do girls even care about that anymore, do they care about just being another piece of ass to some guy? She told you she needed some more time...yeah she needed more time but not to think about giving you another chance she needed more time with the other guy in his bed. She wanted to get some more NEW sex before going back to you. Buddy my ex and I tried to get back together after all the stuff I knew she did and let me tell you it was a disaster. Of course everyone is different and maybe your situation is different but let me tell you it will be extremely difficult. Hope things work out.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 September 2009):
 I personally think that she probably ran off to console herself after an explosive break up on your anniversary. Let's face it, that's a pretty rotten situation and it doesn't surprise me that she would run into another guys bed for comfort. Is it the best therapy? No. But is it therapy that countless people seek after a bad break up? Yes.
She didn't do anything until after you broke up. Maybe she feels icky about it, maybe she doesn't, but the point is - she never cheated on you, so who's to say she'll suddenly become a cheater?
There are my two cents!
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Who's to say the next time you get into a tiff that she wont be running back to this other guy...and a co-worker at that. which means they are together at work?
lol...this has bad ending written all over it young man.
Sorry for the levity but that is a little too convenient. Well all I can say is if you enjoy the drama that is sure to ensue....
(being that Im sure everyone at her work knows what they did, and I'm sure the guy is just as happy to brag to his buddies about what he got off her and snickering that you are now getting his sloppy seconds), then stay with her.
But you wouldn't be here if you enjoyed that drama. Of course it bugs you. And in light of the fact that she works with this guy, I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I disagree with the previous aunts on this one. If she had an attraction to a coworker and never messed with him until you broke up with her, that speaks for her ability to be faithful.
Breaking up with her on your anniversary was a very hurtful thing to do and she was more than likely trying to escape the hurt by being with this other person.
The thing that will be hard is that she works with this person and more than likely he will be hounding her for more, any argument you have with her will make her weak for comfort from him.
I don't think you have any fear of her messing around with a total stranger, but the co-worker is a threat.
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reader, Kg15 +, writes (19 September 2009):
If she would do that,that quickly after a breakup then it's best to move on and find someone better.
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reader, Julie D  +, writes (18 September 2009):
hHi i am sorry to say that ur girlfriend got over u quite quickly. i seriously think that u should do the same, it obviously was not meant to be. if u were arguing all the time there were obviously many conflicting differences between u both. i suggest that u look elsewhere and take ur time befor rushing into something new.
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