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writes:Do all guys go off a girl when they've been together for a while, like a year? I know you have to work at relationships but it just seems that my boyfriend has more fun playing games n having a laugh with his online friends that he rarely thinks about doing anything with me. He said he forgets girls need attention. My last boyfriend got like that. He just wamnted to play pool, watch tv and would just ignore me. Like, literally, open the door and walk back in the house, not say ho, ignore me. I thought it was just because it was never going to work with us, our personalities clashed and he was an ass.But I used to get on soooo great with my current boyfriend. We still do, when we go out and spend time together. He's still really affectionate, most of the time. Now he has gone off sex. He still fancies me, we still have sex. Just I feel his hearts not in wanting to sleep with me. Am I just being needy? I do my own thing too, I'm not gonna sit around pining for attention. But is this normal from a relationship? I love hanging out with him, and it seems he doesn't so much now we're living together. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (18 September 2009):
 Nope ive been with my boyfriend over 4 years now im 22 hes 26 and we fancy each other more then we did when we first met, were now alot more comfy with each other and have been thru so much which makes you close....but i always do my hair and makeup and nice outfits when i meet my boyfriend and he loves that but he also loves me when im just in my pjs.....so have faith...not all people go off each other just after a year!
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (18 September 2009):
 The most important thing you can do if you want your relationship to be great instead of good is to start taking an interest in each other's activities and sharing a great deal of things together.
Spend more time together. Its just like what you said, when you spend more time with him, he's more responsive to you.
Yes he forgets that girls need attention and all you have to do is tell him you want more attention from him. He does need to take that time and get interested in your things and feelings too.
It looks like from what you're saying, he gets distracted and living with you, he takes you for granted. But there's an easy fix here, just start hanging out with him when he slouches off, and take an interest in what he's doing. If he thinks your excited about what he's doing, then that'll get his other parts excited too.
If you two do this, then you'll see that its fun to spend that extra amount of time enjoying each others' company and maybe, throw in some close cuddling and and other things just to make sure the regular affection levels are there too.
Once he starts feeling you close to him, he won't mind being close to you too and having those fun times together.
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