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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for the best part of two years. We love each other to bits and we're going skiing in Canada over Christmas, just the two of us. But the thing is that before i met her i used to be openly gay. Not camp or nothing like that, i acted normal but i was gay and had a boyfriend. But anyway that is in the past i mean i am not bi or nothing like that, i am 100% straight and love Jess to pieces.I stay in touch with my ex boyfriend as good friends. But some of his getting 'uncomfortable'. They are getting alittle too personal for my liking. I am frightened that Jess will read one of then and think that i am doing whatever with someone else- which i a not and never will do!! I have decided that i should tell her just so that she knows the scene and just so that i dont have to hide a large part of my past. Which she could see as me not trusting her if she finds out through somebody else. I want to tell her but honestly have no idea of how. Any suggestions?TaSpf
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reader, HotANDcold  +, writes (8 November 2008):
Listen your case its just a normal feeling anyone would have, you love this woman and she loves you if you are completely honest according to what you said,i dont think your lying to youself about not being gay anymore,if in this two years of relationship with her you have never cheated with another guy then i could say you really love her and your "gay life"its not as important as she is,i am bisexual,openly and i just dont really care if someone comes telling me its impossible you are dating a woman and you dont want to fool around with a guy.
i dated my girlfriend for three years and i never cheated on her with a guy or girl,so its possible.
if you love her and you are completely sure of what you are then be honest to her and tell her you used to date a guy. your not that old ,it happens okay it is just that most of the straight guys pretend to be what their not.i have seem many guys who calls themselves straight man and at next minute hookingup with another guy just that they dont make it public.
if you were openly gay and had no shame for it,it only means you are a responsible man with not stereotypes.
the word "straight"could take a hike,because i just dont think anyone its fully straight
good luck
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reader, Awiserowl +, writes (7 November 2008):
Don't be silly you can't be gay at one time then straight the next. It doesn't work like that. If you mean you experimented with a man but now you realise it was just that then fair enough but believe me you are born gay and nothing will change that if you are.
I suggest a) you could be kidding yourself or b) you are bisexual. Either way you should be open and honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): Could there be a connection here?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-boyfriend-just-told-me-that-he-was.html
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