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writes:my gf and i were together for 3 years . we lived together one and half and two weeks ago i found out that she texting another guy literally cyber sex there met up last week nd they slept together .she confirmed it in last txt message she never knew that i found out . i broke up with her told her how i knew what she did she lied up till the very last minute that she didnt. she told me that she is sorry for what she did and not trying to fix our relationship before she did this . she moved out yesterday not once did she phone or message me or even a letter .she is still in contact with him tho .bt she did say she will wait for me to take her back oneday when i forgive her that she wants to spend her life with me and yes im still inlove with her . she broke me i will never trust women again...
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reader, eskay +, writes (28 June 2010):
eskay is verified as being by the original poster of the question guys i dont know any of you but i thank you from the bottom of my heart. if you are a good person you will always be surrounded by people who love and care about you . when i woke up this morning i didnt cry . just one day at a time slowly but surely . i think its time to learn [Moderator's note: Answer edited for clarity.]
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reader, seneca  +, writes (27 June 2010):
No point in talking it through with her, as some here suggest.
She has lied to you often enough, she will lie again to get what she wants. What you want is immaterial to her.
Move on. It's tough and there aren't too many decent girls out there these days - times have changed. But hang in there long enough and listen to your instincts. Treat girls right and one will be right for you.
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reader, eskay +, writes (27 June 2010):
eskay is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys i am broken so broken that i feel im damaged goods ive been cheated on before with other girls bt this time its different it hurts to deep the next person i meet might not get the best part of me and i hate knowing that. why did i meet her icant throw away three years and to months. iwoke up everyday next to her ...
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reader, dyeruz +, writes (27 June 2010):
The reason she's not writing back is because she's still in contact with the guy and wants to be with him. You're a nice safe bet once things have fizzled out she's hoping you'll be there to pick up the pieces. The fact that she talked to the guy, then had cyber-sex then actually slept with him shows this was not a spur of the moment thing, and if she even had one once of love or consideration for you she would have stopped at some point on that long road to betrayal, and the fact she's probably with him now should make it very clear to you where you stand. There are woman out there who will treat you with respect and give back the love and trust you show to them. Just be glad you found out what kind of woman your ex really was. Good luck to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): It sucks, I know.
But life moves on and its best you try to. Don't lose faith, not all humans are betrayers. In fact a good lot of the time, they can surprise you.
You don't base your opinion of a species on a single unit of said species, now, do you?
Flynn 23
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Not all women are as untrustworthy and clearly she is not worth it and you should perhaps cut your losses and move on. Surely if she was actually going to wait for you, she would make more of an effort to get back together and if she did "love" you, then she wouldn't have slept with another man.Try finding a woman with common interests and develop a stable relationship. Maybe join a fitness club or something along those lines. Perhaps ask a work collegue for coffee. (:
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reader, bey0nbeauty  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 well. theres only one solution to this. Leave her be. Cheating is cheating! she chose who she wants. now the question is... who do you want?
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reader, yag +, writes (27 June 2010):
not all women are like this, just becaus eone woman does something mean and unforgiveable does not mean all woman will.many women think the same about men, buit really they just go for the wrong type of men who don't want relationships and just want fun etc.you need to find someone you truely love and who loves you bacdk and will treat you well.you need to talk to her calmly about it and you might find out why she did it. if she really does love you she will tell you the truth about why she did it and maybe if you know you could help resolve the problem.hope it works out okay for you, whatever happens.
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