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writes: So my girl and I have been together for a couple years and we used to be really happy but things lately last 4 months or so havent been all that great. She makes me feel bad about myself. Since I've had some history with women before dating her, she calls me a slut and a manwhore and is seriously mean about it. I cant make her happy and then she asks me whats wrong, I'm thinking uh you treat me like crap? Anyways I dont know what to do, I love the girl but lately its so bad I'm not even excited to see her anymore. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): She has retroactive jealousy. She is not handling it appropriately but the core feeling is understandable.
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reader, PM  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 To add to what's been said, I think you may want to ask yourself what about a girl who "treats you like crap" makes you love her. Loving those who treat you badly can be a sign of some deeper issues.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 I agree with QuirkLady. There's nothing that can change the past, so belittling you for it is just juvanile and a major personality defect.
Have you tried talking it out? I mean, really talking it out. Not letting her joke about it or play it off? If not, then that's the only way to salvage the relationship. Then again, with only 4 months invested, I personally don't think it's worth it.
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reader, faenon  +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Either she feels insecure about your past and feels threatened she isnt performing to a expection on what you have women do think strangely at times man or she is one who delights in emotional abuse to her fellow do you know if she was like that with other guys?All you can do is talk to her tell her how you feel about being spoken to like that and see if there is anything bothering her on why she calls you names for all you know it is the previous I mentioned she is worried she isnt up to maybe how she thinks you want her to be. If it works out good luck to you but if it doesnt work out you aren't married you can always break up if it doesnt work your unhappy now and without finding out the reason for the sudden change with her and trying to work the knots out you wont know talk to her first try to fix what ever the problem is if it still isnt working, move on no one man or woman has to stay in a abusive relationship.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Dump her. Anyone who tries to shame you about your past dating history is not worth your time.
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