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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me, twice. The first time was like a weekend, I agreed to get back together. The second time, I was tired of being taken for a chump and that was that. It's been 3 months now. We've been talking a lot. She's been coming over a lot (and spending the night).I haven't told her this, but I have to say I'm wishing we would get back together. It's just that I've already told everyone that I would never get back with her after she kept jerking me around like that... still she's been saying that she realizes that it was all her fault and she was projecting her worries onto me (she been seeing a psychologist).What do you think? Should I give it another shot?
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reader, cookimonster +, writes (5 March 2011):
 If you still love her you definitely should give it another shot. I personally have the exact same problem with my boyfriend every time we fight I tell him to move out loll ( but not funny). The first step is admitting that you have a problem. Which she did. I think you should take it slow and see how it goes. Don't give up on a relationship if you're still in love. Love is stronger than words :) Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): No,Don't do it. If you get back together again, the next "impending break up" will be looming over your head from day one and it will be hard to trust her. Two break-up is my personal limit. You might miss the routines you two had, but it doesn't mean you can't find new ones with someone else. The same goes for her as well. Who knows? You might benefit from someone with less drama...she might learn a lesson about how to treat people. If you still feel the same way in a year after she's been in counseling, maybe then revisit the idea of getting back together.
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reader, JJ_Junior  +, writes (4 March 2011):
Don't do it bruv!I've been in this situation - you are only remembering the good times because our brains block out bad memories - she's on her best behaviour right now because she's trying to get back with you. As soon as she wins her label of 'your girlfriend' back then trust me, her attitude will return back to normal by the day. You'll probably be able to actually watch it happen. Then you'll be stuck and make yourself look like a fool in front of everyone that you told.Still I know you've gone too far now because you already let her back in. Good luck I guess. (Rate my comment when it comes true..)
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reader, katweetybird  +, writes (4 March 2011):
If you love her, you should give it another go. She has been getting better by the sounds of it, and if you truly care for her, I think you should stop caring about what other people think and just go for it.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.
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reader, TEM +, writes (4 March 2011):
 If you have been talking to her and she has been coming over a lot, aren't you already kind of back together? Sounds as if you are getting along rather well now.However, the bottom line is, do you two love each other?If you honestly love her, and you feel she is sincere in loving you, then you should give her another chance. The key words here are "honest and sincere." She may have gained good insight into her behavior, and her feelings about, you in therapy. I understand that your pride is a factor here. You told your friends that you were through. Well, if you love her you will just have to put your pride aside and give this relationship a go. If your friends ask why, tell them she has changed. You do feel she has changed, right?
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reader, Abella +, writes (4 March 2011):
 although you feel a degree of emotional involvement i do think you should move on. If she keeps cutting you adrift there has to be a time when you say 'enough is enough.Each time you have to compromise and accept her walking away you will begin to feel more awkward.If you make a clean break now you canstart afresh with a new girl who does nothave all the issues you have to deal with now.And you are not responsible for her health issues. So do not allow guilt to sabotage your future happiness
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): I wouldn't get back with her because I think no matter what she says now if and when you are back together she will eventually start jerking you around again.
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