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writes:I went to my sister's fiancé's birthday with my girlfriend of 4 years. My sister and girlfriend don't get along that well for reason, They fight until me or her fiance break it up. My sister can't have any kids because she had a eating disorder in high school (she's recovered now). Anyway they got into this really dumb fight and my girlfriend yelled "well at I wasn't stupid enough to have a f***ing eating disorder you f***ing whore". My sister had tears in her eyes and went in the bedroom with her fiance following her. I dragged my girlfriend home (I didn`t know what to say to her) and now my sister isn`t letting come to me or my girlfriend to her wedding. Any ideas ?
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 I can't think of a more hurtful thing you can say to a woman who wants, but can't have kids. Your Girlfriend was TOTALLY out of line. If she dosen't like your sister than she should have stayed home. She knew that she was going to be at her fiance's birthday party.
This is where you come in. Go talk to your sister. repair your relationship, tell her you're sorry for the girlfriend and for not standing up for her, get reinvited to the wedding (you don't want to miss that)and enjoy it ALONE. The Girlfriend does not have to follow you everywhere you go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): oh dear, talk about messy relationships! talk to your girlfriend and ask her to be more tolerant of your sister. to be a bit more nicer to her and stuff. Also speak to your sister in do the same thing. ok so they dont get along. but this is not helping. is it? just ask both of them to just tolerate one another for the sake of family. its not good for family to split up like that. goodluck and i hope they both see sense!!
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reader, pebble  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 You should tell your cruel, undignified fiance to keep her tacky mouth shut. She insulted your sister, what she said was seriously hurtful. There was no need for that.Girlfriends may come and go but your sister will always be your sister.And I certainly don't think that your fiance should go to your sister's wedding. She's going to ruin the best day of your sister's life with her childishness. Of course your sister isn't going to want her there. If I were you I'd have serious talk with your fiance and tell her to grow up and start acting like a lady.You go to her wedding, but don't take your fiance. Out of respect for your sister, don't let her special day be ruined.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (16 June 2009):
 why don't you try talking to your sister and girlfriend separately perhaps is safer and find out why they have such issues with eachother?
maybe if you find out why they are being like they are towards eachother then you can perhaps sit them in a room together with you and your sisters fiancee present to help them talk through it and sort it out once and for all.
i mean lets face it it's not fair on you because it's your girlfriend and your sister and you should be there at your sisters wedding and your girlfriend should be there to support you and stuff as well.
and it's not fair on your sisters fiancee because he's also stuck in the middle trying to help your sister and be civil.
but the best thing i can do is i suggest you talk to them separately and find out the issues within there arguments and then talk to them about it separately and then finally bring them together to talk through it and solve it.
Hope this helps.
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