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writes:Me and my bf met through an internet dating website. I am dreading all the questions that will come from my friends and family when they ask "how did you two meet?". I feel a bit embarrased that thats how we met. People often associate sleezy people and those who are desperate with those websites, when its not true in all cases, such as my bf and me. I am fairly shy when it comes to meeting new people so it made a bit easier for me at first.So how do I answer people when they ask how we met? I dont want to lie, but at the same time, im embarrased to tell the truth. Also, I know my parents wont approve that I used a internet dating website, as they are fairly old fashion and I will probably get a lecture about how those sites are dangerous and how they cant believe I put myself in such a position etc. I am 20 years old, still live at home because Im attending university full time and my bf is 25. Any advice on this situation? thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): i met my boyfriend online, and ive now been with im for over a year! this shows that online relationships are good sometimes. i just told my parents i met him in town one night, and then we got talkig online.. they were fine with this. maybe you could tell the same fib?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Here is something for you to think about:If a small town has about 1000 people, fortunately with internet to connect with the rest of the world, what do you think is the chance to meet someone in town that actually fits your idea of a great man? What if you do not find the great man that is compatible with you in that little town? Would you then justify meeting the next 'most' compatible person in town as being 'not embarrassing' and actually better than expanding your horizons by seeking out a great man over the net? The net which houses over a billion users every second.++People often associate sleezy people and those who are desperate with those websites++Who are these people? What accurate percentage of your city do these people represent? What accurate percentage of the world do these people represent?You cannot readily change how others feel and think. They have their own lives and you have yours. Which life are you willing to live? Theirs or yours?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 Hun you just say yeah we met on a dating site. nothing to be embarressed about i mean your parents can't judge you you're 20 years old it's your life and you live it how you want too now. you're an adult you can make your own choices.i mean i am 20 and i don't think you meeting a guy on a dating website is at all embarressing or stupid to be honest i think its really sweet and i'm erally pleased you found someone decent on it.:)you just say i signed up to a dating website and we found eachother. nothing embarressing about that at all :) lots of people i know have met people through all weird and different ways. it's not embarressing it's unique :)Hope this helps.x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): well..first of all i just wana say this. i have dated a guy from online before and in the end we broke up.but of course not every relationship from online is like that.
i think that when ppl ask you that question it may not be easy to tell the truth.but its better than to lie.why should you be afraid to tell others where you and your bf met if the two of you truly love each other. love can begin frm any place.
some parents do say that online dating is not reccomended. and my parents are like that too but i think they just need to learn how to accept that.
i think the way things turn out is how you deal with your relationship.and not how/where the couple met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): It is perfectly logical now to meet someone online - lets face it the internet is an integral part of our lives. I know two people I am close friends with who met through an online dating agency and both live with their partners they met and one is getting married to him this month! So it works... its nothing to be ashamed of and I think any seedy or desperate image you describe may have been the case a few years back but not any more. The concept of meeting a man or woman at your local supermarket over the 'meals for one' counter is kind of romantic but unlikely. Concentrate on how you feel about one another - all you have done is use modern technology to find someone you love. Its the modern way.
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