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writes: My girlfriend who I've been with for six months acts a little strange about oral sex. She has no problem giving it to me, but she won't let me go down on her. She says it's just nasty. I would like to be able to please her the way she does me. What can I do?
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reader, lc +, writes (3 August 2006):
i like going down but not getting it either. but, as i suck him i lay on my side facing him so he can finger me or whayever which i like.
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Hi there! What a kind and caring attentive boyfriend you are!! Ladies hats off to this guy! Ok back to business... Your girlfriend is probably VERY self conscious about how she smells or tastes down south. Maybe she had a past boyfriend who hated performing oral sex on her or maybe he made her feel "nasty" and smelly. So she could be saving herself from the same rejection and insults from past experiences. If you value your girlfriend's company, gain her trust by waiting. Let her know that you love everything about oral sex including the tastes and smells and feel of the act. Let her know the truth that there are guys out there who are disgusted by going down, but there's a huge portion of men who love it and can't get enough. Bottom line...you'll have to wait it out if you care about her and it sounds like you do. Best of Luck to you!
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Hi there
There is plenty you can do to help your GF learn to enjoy OS. But remember you cannot force her to do anything she doesn't want to do.
Try bathing or showering together before you have sex as maybe she has issues with personal cleanliness or thinks she "smells". Set up the bathroom with candles and make it all romantic. And when you kiss her on the belly and stroke her don't just head for "the spot" with your tongue and mouth! In fact the first couple of times make her so hot she will want you down there!
Talk to her some more, over a glass of wine or two and try to get to the bottom of why she finds recieving OS so nasty. She obviously doesn't have issues so bad that she cannot tolerate the thought of it if she is willing to give OS to you. What fun you can have....
Good Luck
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reader, dream_lover +, writes (21 January 2006):
 If your girlfriend wants to give then receive don't knock it some girls like to receive and not give.She maybe pleasing you but it may please her to please you.You don't have to please her that way as luck man said find other ways that please her more.You maybe pleasing her by her pleasing you.like lucky man said don't make it an issue out of it or she may stop pleasing you all together.find other ways to make her happy,good luck and injoy!
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reader, roxysuperx +, writes (21 January 2006):
 I guess I have the most unconventional answer for this one but here goes. There are some women that feel there "down unders" are not so fresh and so clean. It is very possible she may think she has a yeast infection or maybe it is "that time". You get my drift. Otherwise ther could be much more major issues and I dont think I'll mention those here. Email me.
The other answers from the ladies prior are very good insights as well. Good lick!!
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (20 January 2006):
 I agree with the first answer, there is not much you can do to persuade her to let you go there. Just knowing that you would do it for her if she wanted it is probably enough for her, there are plenty of ways to please a woman with out oral. Good luck.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (20 January 2006):
 Dear Barry there are plenty of other things you could do to please your girlfriend other then oral sex she may even feel a little shy about her body parts try the softly touch with her make her feel like she's the most beautiful girl you've ever seen but give it time you have only been together for a short while some women take a long time to feel completely comfortable with a man Good luck x
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