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writes: I recently told a co-worker that I was attracted to him. But let me first explain: We talk a lot about work on the phone and email and sometimes I see him in person. I have told some work related items about some other people and items of importance and he said you can tell me anything you want and on a few different times he has said "you can trust me." I had a dream about him the other night that was so amazing. Ever since then when I see him I can not stop looking at him.After a few weeks of this I could't take it anymore and decided to feel him out and I asked him "are you married? thru email at work. "I don't think we should talk about this on company email". What does "THIS" mean to him? all I asked was he married, a smiple question. So I asked him what the big deal was with the question and what he thought "this" meant. He said where are your questions going? So I just came out and told him. I was attracted to him. He said again you can trust me and I am not married-I have a g/f. I am married and not happy, only for kids. Do I try to make it work. I just want and need some excitment. What is this guy thinking? Does he maybe feel the same way? soooo confused.....
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (20 January 2006):
I think taht when this guy said 'i dont think we should be talkng about this on work emai' was a sign that he was feeling uncomfortable. he probably knew that you were interested, by just asking that question and him being in a realtionship was probably uncomfortable that someone else was showing interest (i knwo im like that wheni n a happy relationship). The fact that he told you he had a gf, shows that he probably isnt interested, if he was, then he would tell you.
Listen, i know your unhappy in your relationship and pprobabyl want to feel loved and have affection from someone, but maybe this isnt the guy to do it with, especially sinc he has a gf? thats not very nice to play around with her guy.
I think maybe you should post a question about your unhappiness in your marriage, as that seems to be a underlying deeper issue. But what i can say to you is this, my parents stayed married for me and my sister, they were miserable but the ystayed for us. so take it from a kids point of view, growing up with 2 parents who hate each other and just arent happy, its not good. kids would rather be from a broekn home then be in one. if you arent happy then surely they can still have a good and happy life wihtout living in a home where there parents arent happy. you owe it to your kids to be happy, because a happy parent makes a good one. if your miseable then your kids can probably tell and that owuld hurt them to see it.
Anyways, as for this guy, if you really must find a guy to go with, thhen i suggest looking for anothe one. dont worry there r plenty of guys out there! but just make sure you make it clear to them that you are only looking for some fun, as iwould hate to see a guy fall in love with you (and im sure its not very hard! im sure your a great woman!) and find out your married and that you 2 can never be together.
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