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writes:I am confused help with girlfriend?So basically my girlfriend has told me, im almost perfect and its weird almost unreal that i have came into her life so shortly after her ex,she says she likes me alot, and she doesnt want this to be a rebound, and we both want to make it work out, but she cant seem to get over her ex, i told her to make a list she said she wouldnt be able to it would make her cry, so as a boyfriend WHO LOVES This girl i am sure of it, and i have told her she beleives is how can i help this situation, she makes alot of sacrifices to make me happy, and im willing to do anything to try to help her, but its a difficult situation
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reader, kelleeashton +, writes (6 January 2009):
 hold onto her. she really cares about you but sometimes an ex just will not let you go. she WILL get over him. it just takes time. don't let her go. just make sure she knows you love her and are there for her and you wont give up on her and you won't let her push you away. don't give up. time love and support are the answer. BEST OF LUCK!
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reader, roadman  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Just give her time...her feelings will sort them self out..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): You don’t mention your age here, well I am a 22 year old girl, and it’s a tricky situation that you are in right now, I suggest you go for friendship, don’t call her your girlfriend just yet, just be friends for a while and help her get over her ex if she wants to, her not being over him will only coz problems for the 2 of you you will always wonder if she is truly happy with you and she will always wonder what things could’ve been like with him, offer her a good friend who will be her shoulder to cry on when she misses her ex, the person who will agree and listen when she needs to lash out about her ex, be a friend that will dry her tears, show her that you value her as a person, comfort her when she’s sad, otherwise as you say this will only become rebound, its hard to turn love of for another person, its not a light switch sometimes we fall so deep for one person that we think no one would be able to love or make me feel like he did, but angel you try your best to make this girl feel better than what anyone could and the only way you can do this is by being the best friend she could possibly ask for don’t go for the relationship now, take things slow and show her that there is a love and life after her ex.
Good luck
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reader, tumelo  +, writes (6 January 2009):
no this is definately not a difficult situation at all, well i think we all know the rule of not opening another before closing the other one,
i suggest you just take time out and probably start off at a begginers stage take it one step at a time, and you she sacrifices a lot to make you happy, making a person shouldn't be an obligation, dont make her feel as if she is obliged to make you happy.
you certainly dont want to be some rebound guy, so kul things off a bit,then take it from there
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