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*brasive_Reality
writes:So, my boyfriend of about two months has created a bit of tension in our relationship....Recently our relationship was taken to a physical level and I couldn't have been more happier, however, along with sexual activity comes the sexual talks; We decided to get into the whole fantasy talk.He admitted that one of his fantasies was to have a threesome with another girl, which I was totally okay with and am in a way down for that and thought it was totally hot. Butttttt.... this evening while I was out with a few girlfriends working, he sent me a text that said he was going to send me a link of a girl he wants to have a threesome with, and i totally thought it was going to be a complete joke, but it wasn't.I am really insecure with my breast size and have been prospecting a surgeon for breast augmentation which he knows of, and I feel that in a way he isn't too fond of my breasts because he doesn't really touch them that much, or even say ANYTHING about them while were having sex or even after, but even after that I've been most comfortable around him with my breasts exposed, not sure why, but i am/wasthe link he sent me was of a chick that was SUPER hot, huge boobs, BANGING BODY... and the picture/pictures was pretty much focused on her amazing hot breasts, and i couldn't have been more upset about it....WHAT SHOULD I DO?! he knows I'm upset with it.... clearly, but i really don't know what to say or how to react to this....This is a new relationship for me, and I am just really confused, it REALLY got to me.... and I'm trying to keep my cool about it....
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reader, Adee1 +, writes (15 January 2009):
 I personally think its a redflag
guiltfree sex if your involved..
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (12 January 2009):
Abrasive_Reality is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): If this is making you uncomfortable you should not do it, and you say you just came out of a 2 year relationship gosh girl how do you switch your feelings of for your ex? Don’t settle for less if you feel this man is not treating you the way you would like to be treated don’t settle for it, go with your heart it will lead you in the right direction. This is one of his fantasies you don’t have to make them come true, if you feel uncomfortable with it, just hold on to your beliefs, someone on this site gave me advise about the threesome told me not to do it it only complicates things if we both don’t want it, and I listened and it helped. Don’t do anything you don’t want to
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): Like you said, it's just fantasy. If he wasn't happy with the way you are he wouldn't be with you. If he knew about your 'breast insecurity' it was probably insensitive of him to do that, but that's men for you - little or no tact sometimes! However, huge hooters are not all they're cracked up to be - they can get very sweaty and ripe underneath, and give you strap marks on your shoulders plus a bad back - so be thankful for what you've got.
If you want to strike back at him to pictorially explain the error of his ways, look for some pictures of Lexington Steele on the internet and tell him that's the sort of knob you would't mind climbing onto. He'll be back to fantasising about Paris Hilton in no time.
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (6 January 2009):
Abrasive_Reality is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts not that shes an actual person hes prospecting to have a threesome with, shes just a model, which i is fine, however I guess I feel like our relationship hasn't gone to that extent of a comfort level, and it makes me feel a little insecure about it.
*I suppose its probably important to know that right before him and i started to date i had just recently parted ways with a 2 year relationship where i was treated like royalty and the man i was with would have never done something like this, ever! I was the only girl for him, and he loved every inch of my body and made sure i knew!
So, this is just a different approach to the relationship, at first I wanted to just tell him to "&*%$ Off" but, i figured it was too immature and too soon to respond to him, so i just said goodnight and tried to leave it there, he tried to play it off like it was a joke, i suppose a really cruel joke at that....
it really got to me, like it was just so cruel, and i think maybe I'm over reacting?
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