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writes:I wrote the following question a week ago and I desperately need more advice!!The update is, I didn't go and talk to him although people that gave me advice from this said that I should; my friends told me I shouldn't. He still hadn't called me and I just found out from mutual friends that he is moving interstate in 3 days!!! He is probably going for a year but possibly forever. Is this just fate and it was never meant to be or am I losing my last chance with him????Also to add to my first post, he told me he cared about me and I told him the same thing back!! We agreed that we weren't getting more serious, both of us thought that's what we wanted. It just seemed to work out that even though casual there were expectations and I sound harsh in my post but honestly was sooo good to him. He knew it too and told me all the time. I did a lot for him like just looking after him, considering him, you know as far as friends go I was the one making sure he was having a good time (I'm that type of friend anyway but I must admit he got special attention) and now he doesn't even have the time to call me or maybe is too scared. I don't know!! A female reader, anonymous writes:I have been casually seeing a freind of mine for a three months now. We had been freinds for a while and kissed one night when we were out drinking. We are both single and happy to be single. We kissed the following weekend have been kissing and having sex for the last 3 months. It started as a drunken mistake and has taken on a course of it's own. We would make sure we were at the same friends house or party every weekend so we could see each other and we would spend the entire weekends together usually from Thursday night until Monday morning. We would hang out and go to parties aswell as sleep over at each other's houses. After a month or so he asked me where it was heading and I said that we were just friends having fun, when it wasn't fun anymore we should stop. I told him I didn't want a relationship but I did care about him. He seemed happy with that and told me he wouldn't see anyone else as long as we kept it going. He told me he had a great amount of respect for me and cared about me heaps. Things kept going for another month like before.Now he is acting differently. We rarely call each other, just make sure we meet up somewhere at the start of a weekend and then spend the next three days insperable until the next weekend. But two weeks ago I was sick on the Thursday and Friday nights and stayed home. I didn't hear from him at all and didn't worry too much as a mutual friend was having his going away party the saturday night. I was there at 9pm and my guy didn't arrive until 11.30pm, I barely got a chance to say hi to him before at 11.45 he was getting in a cab out the front with a male friend of his. I tried calling him and he didn't answer. Pride forced me not to call him and he didn't try to contact me either. We ran into each other the following Saturday at a mutual friends and he tried to hug me and act normal. I pulled away from him, we had a few words which consisted of him saying he was too scared to speak to me because he felt bad about the way he acted at the going away party. I told him he made me feel bad and he got in his car and left. He has done something similar once before on the night of his birthday when I had been seeing him romantically for 6 weeks. We had plans (a group of us) to see a band and he wouldn't answer anyones calls including mine. I didn't hear from him for 3 days after that(even though other friends had) until I went over to his house and he said he wanted to speak to me but was too scared. Everything was ok after that and he was glad I went to his house. But he makes me feel so good most of the time then treats me like I am nothing to him. I don't understand what is going on in his head. It's been 3 days since I saw him and he drove away. I don't know if I should forget about him or go see him. But either way I don't feel like I should be the one to have to go and see him!
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Maybe he has feelings and it is too much to talk to you. People can always say casual sex but sex is not casual. You were friends after you started having sex and spending the weekend with eachother you were in a relationship whether you want to admit it or not. You should talk to him and tell him whats in your heart and on your mind. I'm sure he will understand. Don't let your pride get in the way. Its one of the seven deadly sins for a reason. Good Luck.
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