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anonymous
writes:I feel sorry because one day my friends and I was playing truth or dare. So, I picked Dare they dared me to make a fake myspace and to post a fake pic. Three days later a lot of people was adding this fake myspace. But there was this one guy that caught my eyes. It was Internet LOVE. This guy Was so sweet and cute we had got along about everything. We started to chat everyday but he didn't know the real ME sadly and I feel stupid to tell him the picture is FAKE and thats not me. So, I didn't I kept lying to him about my pics. Then he told me he was in love with me. I was like OMG I couldn't brake his heart. He messaged me everyday! Then he asked me for my number I said no then he asked me for Pictures I said sorry my camera isn't working. Then ONE DAY I told him that myspace and fake so is the pics. He said oh...and he asked me to post my real pic I did and he reply "Thanks" but I felt I wasn't his type of girl plus I don't take good pictures. I look pretty in person but not on pics. He talked to me after when I told him the truth. I was really hurt because I don't know what thanks suppose to mean? Did he like my real pics or what...Anyways, He said he still wanted to meet but not on a date just bring my friends along. I said NO because I don't really know him. Then he started to ask about my friend so, I post another fake pic then, he wanted to meet my friend. I told him those was fake also. I feel sorry about it because I really liked him but had Self Esteem problems. Hes not talking to me now...I regret Doing that Dare and chatting with him. I hate lying and I can't keep a lie I have to tell the truth. I want to chat with him again but hes not emailing me. I love him sadly
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reader, Honeii +, writes (18 February 2010):
Girl don't worry. Hes wasting ur time. Everyone makes mistakes all the time and lie. You got caught up in a dare that always happened but sadly you had feelings for him. He seems like a loser if he wanted to meet you also quickly. At least you told the truth twice. Get over him
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): I have done this before too, it sucks.
At first you think its all a joke untill you realize its actually another real person on the other end and you start to have things in common and you never thought you could have feelings for this person untill its too late and then you feel terrible for lying and it all gets messed up.
In my senario, i told the truth and we never spoke again, and it was painfull and i felt terrible for weeks.
If you feel like that is the only road you can go down, then it will take a little bit of time but you will get over it and learn from your mistake.
Or you can give him a little space, let him into your real myspace. real world, be open and honest and let him in. Get to know him from the start again.
However this guy might be a bit to damaged from this situation to be able to go there again and what you had may not be recovered. If you work thngs out it would be a miracle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): I suggest you growup and that you and your silly little friends dont gain access to the internet in future!.. who knows he may want to seek revenge for you being such a cruel person!
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reader, goodguy11 +, writes (11 February 2010):
Lying never leads to anything good especially when you have admitted to lying and then doing it again. I say never lie because one lie leads to another. So learn from this and don't make lying a habit. Ask anyone that the most imporant thing in any relationship is trust and after lying to him twice he just couldn't believe anything you say after that point. You should move on because I highly doubt he wants anything to do with you. So let this be an experience to you that lying hurts people.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
As a male, I would find this hugely disturbing and I wouldn't ever speak to you again. You lied, turned him down, lied again and now he won't speak to you. No wonder. He's terrified and confused and very hurt. I'm sure you don't really love him, I'm sure this is more of an infatuation. You need to move on. I'll tell you now that you don't stand a chance now you have put him through all that.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (11 February 2010):
Wow poor guy. You lied to him and led him on pretending to be someone else, he forgave you... he asked to meet you, you rejected him... then you lied to him again... no wonder he isn't talking to you!
Sorry honey but I think you need to just try to let him go and move on. Try to see the lessons here, the universe will reward you having more confidence in yourself. You didn't and you never gave this man a chance to know the real you.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 Okay, first of all, you're infatuated. I'm not saying that internet romances don't happen- my Dad married a woman he met online. But it isn't instantaneous, and I don't believe that the love part is ever genuine until you've actually met.
If he really liked YOU, your face has nothing to do with it. If he isn't okay with your real picture, he was more interested in the girl in the fake picture and you're better without him. The reason, I suspect, that he isn't talking to you, is because you lied, and you lied a lot. It isn't unreasonable of you to be apprehensive to meet, but he did encourage you to bring friends and keep it casual. That wasn't a rejection, that was smart. I suspect he was trying to protect BOTH of you- since you've lied there was no guarantee you weren't a kidnapping psycho. Besides, if he'd done all that to you, how would you feel? Would you still want to meet him and would you still like him if he said his picture was fake?
If you really do like him, you seem old enough to round up some friends in a really crowded place and arrange to meet, if that's really what you want. But if he isn't local, and he isn't cool with those terms, and still won't talk? Chances are you were the one being duped.
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