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30-35,
*pendy
writes:hey, am dating this guy..hes really sweet, Amazing, good looking.. and i love make love with him..he loves pleasing me..always asking what i like etc: hes soo great:)ok the thing he says he wants to go down me..but i feel nervous cos no guys is ever done that..i dont let them..i feel shy..but this guy i want him to..but am shy..i dont now what to except..please help?thnx..xx how do i relax and just let him do it??
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reader, Flyguymyeye +, writes (11 February 2010):
You're not abnormal. My wench is not keen on it either. Give it a shot and see how it goes. Dim the lights so you don't feel so on display, and make sure you're clean!!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 As a man, I insist that some of us truly enjoy providing oral satisfaction for our woman. With reasonable hygiene, most every single vulva and vagina I've ever encountered has been lovely, fragrant and delicious to me. Having such intimate proximity to my woman's most private and sensitive area is also quite a turn on.
And pleasing her orally is much more than a function, it's an art. So, the guys who either complain, consider it a chore or do not do it well, simply don't know what they're missing. Resisting a man who would like to provide, attempt or learn the art of cunnilingus is your choice, but I must agree with others that you will probably "want it more and more."
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): PS, if it helps you out, there's always worse... I hesitate with letting my boyfriend go down on me, even though he says he loves doing it. Not because I think I smell bad or anything, but there was this incident with an ex where I, and you will laugh, I farted. And ever since I've been terrified it will happen again! So there you go, you're not alone in being nervous, but it can not possibly get worse than that embarrassing episode of mine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Just go with it gradually. Let him do it for a little as foreplay, like maybe 4-5 min or as far as you feel comfortable. You don't have to have him make you cum before you stop. Plus, especially in my case, it can be hard to make a girl come and take ages. He also will have to learn what you like, how you like to be licked and such. That takes practice. So do not expect much the first time, it can either feel just wet and sloppy, or it can feel amazing. Practice always makes better though. So let him do it for short periods at first to get you used to the feeling, then later on when you feel more comfortable with it let him continue for as long as he wants to or until you come.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 See, shyness in sexual activity is not a good things. And, here oral sex is such a powerful sex play, that many couple use it as if it is a normal intercourse. And, really it is more powerful than vaginal intercourse.
If shyness is problem you really feel, then confess this, and call for his tender help, and he will be more pleased to help you to come out from shyness, which is not a serious problem, but short time problem. With the increase of intimacy, shyness is the first thing to go out. Best luck.
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reader, Kassi (Nova)  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I can relate. My husband loves to do that for me, and I feel shy a lot. It isn't common (or at least publicly accepted) for guys to love giving oral sex to women. You grow up hearing guys complain and make embarrassing jokes about it, even though they expect you to do it for them.
So of course you feel shy! Even though you make love and you both love it, there is still a part of you that fears being rejected. If you tell him that you're insecure, and worried he won't like it, I'm sure he'll find a special way to make you feel better about it, and when you do, you'll likely be more receptive to it and to returning the favor.
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