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writes: My friend is being bullied by a girl (just teasing) and told me not to tell. Should I tell anyway or listen to him? Once I stood up for him (he doesn't stand up for himself) and now the bullies thinks his "girlfriend" needs to protect him. He got very mad at me and say your a f***ing bitch, Why is he being a jerk? hes being bullied and me not to tell. I'm very confused. My other friend said I should tell a teacher. Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo talked to my friend (the one being bullied) about the abuse he's suffering And he disagree that he need to tell someone about what's going. Why is he being so unreasonable? Should I tell anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): He feels ashamed,embarrased and humiliated because someone
is having to stand up for him and he feels he wants to defend himself,but he can't.That's my guess.Most men don't like protection or help,especially if they want to be or think they're tough.But you were and still are right.You
should tell a teacher.It will help so much(hopefully).He may be pissed and angry at you,but he'll thank you in the long run.Plus,what do boys think we're here for.To stand
around and do chores and just watch someone we care for get
hurt?We're supposed to be there for eachother,even if it
doesn't seem like the right thing for the other person.xxx
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reader, clickyclick  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Hey Maggi,
That's a very couragous thing to stand up for your friend like that. There are a lot of people who just sit back whilst something like that happens you are a person with high morals; that's a good thing!
He's wondering why you had to do that and you're wondering why has he rewarded you so badly? The first most important thing about this is that you are NOT at wrong! It's not your fault or his! You're trying your best to stick up for him and that is a really noble thing to do. The reason why he acted like that is because it's just his way of venting out his emotions. If you just stand by him and help him through this and make sure he knows that you are his friend and no matter what you will stick by him, because you're sure he would do the same for you.
I hope you both get through this!
You are a true noble friend!
Best Wishes
Clicky
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): It's not your fault honey, you were only trying to help. However, you have unintentionally added humiliation on top of his already being bullied. There is nothing worse for a boy than to have a girl protecting him. Boys are brought up to protect girls, not the other way around.
It will only embarass him further to have you stick up for him, so as hard as it is to watch, try not to interfere.
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reader, Beckah +, writes (27 July 2008):
 It doesn't matter what age a male is, you find something in him that women just aren't so bothered about...'ego'. To protect a boy is striping him of every piece of pride he has. They feel naked without this feeling of masculinity, and often hide behind it to make themselves feel bigger, or look it to others.
I agree with Annalisa, you should confide in a teacher that you trust and one that perhaps sees him everyday, that way they can monitor what goes on. I'm not talking about a full squat team on the playing field at break, but just someone to keep a look out for unusual behaviour, maybe something that your teacher picks up on and you don't. Either way try and understand that your friend feels a little like a pansy and you helping him only increases this. Be there for him if he wants to talk about it, but apart from that...try and get his mind off it, ignore this girl, she probably fancies him.
Hope i've helped
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