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writes: A coursemate of mine who has been a close friend for sometime now, just told me he is in love with me. Am so confused that i dont know what to tell him.Should i accept his proposal or not? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): I'm also have such a problem but to me there's too much worries to worry about because there's too many people around me trying to get an answer from me. I find it stressful and worry about choosing friends over love. I guess i have to consider more before giving him an answer. Well, if you do have your answer just tell him striaght there's no need to aviod all that. Good luck!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (17 January 2008):
If you love him or have feelings, then you can reciprocate. If you don't have those feelings, just tell him you want to be friends for now.He will get the message.Do you love him ? If you are unsure, tell him to give you more time.
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reader, Enjoythesilence +, writes (17 January 2008):
If you like him, why not? Take the chance, he's your friend and that's a great foundation to build on. I'm in the same situation, but in my case i have yet to tell her how i feel. I just fear things would get awkward. But in your case, what is your gut feeling telling you? How long have you guys known each other? The guy had the heart to tell you this, and he knows what's on the line, friendship, but yet he was brave enough to share his feelings. Go for it....
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reader, living and learning +, writes (17 January 2008):
If you dont feel the same way then you shouldnt start something you are not ready for. It can turn out to be a hurtful situation.If you are truly friends be honest with him and he will respect your honesty and you will still be able to be friends. If not, you should probably stop spending so much time together.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (17 January 2008):
It your decision and your the one who has to lie with yourself the next morning so its up to and no one can make the decision for you. But if it was me i would, i have dated a friend and things went great. Some of the best partners you can have are your past friends because they honestly care about you most of the time and are not only out for sex.
But beware if you break up it will make it often times so that you can not have a normal friend relationship with them again, this can be stoped of course and u can still be great friends but you both have to be willing to still be friends.
Good luck!
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reader, O Connor +, writes (17 January 2008):
well that all depends on how you feel about him?? if you dont feel the same then dont do anything about it-this will only give him false hope and he will end up getting his heart broken. but if you do think that there may be something there, then go for it, but let him know that your feelings are not yet as strong as his and that you would like to start off slow and maybe slightly casual? how do you feel about him? if you wanna talk more about this id be happy to listen, just drop me an email xxx
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