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writes:A friend I've had for 5 months has told me he likes me. We kissed the other night and I really like him - I got that lovely crazy lustful feeling :o)The only problem is, my last ex (who I lived with) was a few years younger than me. He turned out to be an immature, undependable twat. I know not ALL guys are going to be like this, but it does dent your trust a bit.The guy I like is 4 years younger than me. I'm 25, he's 21. He does have a stable, decent job, looks after his Mom and sister (pays most of the bills) as his Mom's suffered a recent nervious breakdown. So he seems quite dependable.But he's a bit of a joker too. And he has a past with drugs. He was never violent, I think just went a bit nutty on drugs because he's had a pretty rough life.He has opened up to me about his family and his past, and his feelings.I'm just scared of getting hurt again I guess.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 He sounds like a nice, young man. I would go very slowly here. He does sound very mature and dependable, but from the sounds of things, he has a lot on his plate. I would definitely go very slow here.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 thats completely normal that you have had your trust dented a bit, but you have to try to not compare the past with the present. this guy has had more life experiences than others, and that will have matured him somewhat. he sounds like a great guy, and i would just let him know that you have been hurt in the past and you would feel comfortable with taking things a little slower. he should be fine with this, and that really means something. meanwhile, just enjoy this guy and those great feelings you get wen your with him, forget your past and look forward to a happy future!! i hope this helps hun, id be happy to talk to you some more if you wanna just email xxx
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