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writes: I have been in a wonderful relationship with a great guy for about two and a half months. Honestly, I haven't felt this in love/loved before in my life. Sure there are little things, but everything has been wonderful until a recent issue and it has left me wondering...My friend, whom I've been friends with for about 8-10 months, has recently been going through some things. We aren't best friends, but we work together and socialize mainly on the weekends. She also knows my boyfriend and we have all hung out together on a few occasions. To cut to the chase, last night my boyfriend told me that she has been texting him and also mentioned and that he hoped she wasn't getting the wrong idea. I thought, no biggie, she is probably just looking for a little male attention after her on/off boyfriend left her and I know that they have rode home from work together a few times. Then he continued that she had been talking about how she liked it, which I find a bit inappropriate. It also makes me question my boyfriend as to what they were doing/talking about that something like that would even come up.Am I wrong to feel disrespected or am I blowing this out of proportion?
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reader, van1llabeeen87  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 Tell her to back off immediately!!! I have been through this exact situation before...he might even have to tell her to back off himself--if he has respect for you he will do this. She might not listen the first few times that you yourself tell her and will continue to text for a while...trust me I know. You might even want to look into blocking her number. She wants what she can't have. She can look for male attention elsewhere!!! A real friend would NOT do this to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): you have a loyal guy there to be quite honest. although you are well within your rights to confront her, tell her to back off, let her know she has to find her own way to work from now on and to leave your man alone- he is off limits!
also you might want to let her know that your 'friendship' is no more.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (11 July 2011):
 If there was something going on, your boyfriend wouldn't tell you about it. Appreciate him for being a good guy and letting you know about things. It probably wasn't easy for him to do. This girl is NOT your friend. Perfect example of the expression "With friends like this you don't need enemies."
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Ok you need to appreciate the fact that your boyfriend told you and not take your anger out on him, he obviously is serious about you that's why he is telling you.
If i were you i would confront your so called friend and tell her to back off, then cut ties and ask your boyfriend to do the same, she's not the type of friend you or anyone would want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): Well your boyfriend has told you about what has happened so give him some credit for that. Knowing what you know now I would ask your boyfriend not to travel home from work with her as it is making you uncomfortable.
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