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writes:My friend started dating a girl i sort of have known for a while a month ago. They seem to be getting along fine, but recently they haven't been spending to much time together which is mainly because they are both pretty busy which is understandable. But my friend came up to me a few days ago and told me two girls who graduated last year came up to him at his workplace and offered him a threesome. Well obviously you can see where the problem begins. He doesn't want to hurt her but he thinks that this may be his one chance to experience it, so he plans on doing it and not telling anyone except for me. Which i feel dirty not telling her but i don't want to upset him either. If I tell her and she breaks up with him im sure he will catch on or get wind of it. I even tried talking him out of it but it didn't seem to phase him, i even warned him of how that would make him look cheating on his girlfriend to do that if it gets to our school. He plans on doing this about early next month and not telling her and doing what ever he is doing now with her until then and probably onwards. I dont understand why he is willing to do this to her, she is really nice and if i ever did get a chance with her i never would do that. What makes him able to so easily do this to someone like her without it really bothering him to much. I would feel guilty as hell. What should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): There is not much you can do .But he has drawn you into his plan. I guess you could tell him that when the time comes and if it comes you will not lie to save him.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (19 February 2009):
 i feel your pain man
i see your bud can be a jerk sometimes, it's really wrong to go fool around with other people while you're happy with some one already
i just suggest you keep trying to convince him not to do it, talk to him guy to guy, friend to friend, and look him straight in the I and tell him almost exactly what you said in that first comment you put to the peoples responces...tell him how great the girl is and that she would never this kinda shit on him, and if she ever found out that it would mess up his reputation as a cheeater (pretty sure girls dont like that)
and if he reall wants a threesome..why's he freekin out about.im guessing he's around 18-21 like you are
he's still young, he'll have all the time in his life to fullfill all his dreams
so just hang in there bud, and hope you're not hurting to much from this situation-peace
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 February 2009):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Any more ideas that wont cause problems for me, i dont see one coming.....
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (19 February 2009):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah to take her away is not my goal, it just irritates me that guys like this even if its my friend who can be really cool. Always get the girls while nice guys like me get left out in the dust. I have never had a girlfriend and have yet to have my first kiss. just really frustrating.
Especially since i know this girl and she is really nice and would never do anything remotely like this to him or any other guy and i don't want her to change because she got messed around on by one guy.
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reader, eocalla +, writes (19 February 2009):
Well bud you're going to have to make a decision.
This is definitely a pickle for you but its either you break your friendship with him or you let this go down and keep your mouth shut because if you do tell her and he finds out that you did, which I can promise you he will, he will probably not consider you a friend anymore or think very highly of you.
On the other hand if you don't mind ending your friendship with this dude and you really care about this girl and perhaps want to show her that you would be a much better boyfriend and treat her the way she deserves (which is the impression i'm getting) then by all means, do the right thing and mention it to her.
One thing to be mindful of though is that perhaps your friends comments have little truth to them and he was just bragging to you.
Perhaps the best move would be to wait it out a bit before you make your decision then if this thing is actually going to go down like he says you can make your move... or not.
Hope that helps
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (19 February 2009):
 theres not really much you can do in this situation, without getting someone hurt. just keep trying to convince him. tell him that you think its a really bad idea and that if he goes through with it, that you dont want to know. that way you wont feel guilty because you wont know for sure that he did. or if you know the girls from the threesome, you could tell them that he has an STD.
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