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My friend gave me oral sex and I returned the favour; does this make me a lesbian?

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Question - (8 August 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 3 January 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i'm not too sure whether i'm a lesbian or not because i slept around my friends house the other night.

we had to sleep in the same bed as there wasn't anywhere else to sleep and we both slept naked.

about an hour after we'd gone to bed, i got woken up by her doing oral sex on me.

it was a bit of a shock at first but i really enjoyed it.

she asked me if i'd do it back to her and i said yes so i did.

it was really strange at first but i liked it a lot.

since then she's admitted that she thinks she's in love with me.

and that she would love to be my girlfriend.

i've always felt something for her and always thought she's pretty hot.

but does this mean i'm a lesbian now i've done oral sex with another girl?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008):

It's easy to get a crush on a friend and it's nice when they reciprocate (I myself have awoken to the same situation). Don't feel the need to categorize yourself. If you want a relationship with her then tell her, if not then tell her that. Just be yourself and don't worry.

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A female reader, caraduddy United Kingdom +, writes (9 August 2007):

caraduddy agony auntThat depends if you have romantic feelings for her and if you have them for men aswell. If you only have them for women it could mean you are a lesbian. But if you have them for men also then u could be bi. But if you dont have romantic feelings for this girl and it was just a one off thing to see what its like and ur attracted to men then you could be straight OR bi-curious. Meaning your curious about doing things with people and seeing what its like. Anyway hope I helped,

Cara x

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A male reader, leonard j.Douglas Philippines +, writes (9 August 2007):

Do you really want to know how women feel about Lesbian relationships? If you do, then this book is a must for you to read. "THE HITE REPORT" By Shere Hite. By Macmillan Publishinh Co, Inc. ISBN 0-02-551851-8. The best insight into female sexuality that I have ever read and it would be very helpful to you. I for one do believe that both gender are bisexually inclined, and if we act on it, or not, is the only difference in our sexuality. PS, You'll enjoy the book, and it can and will be helpful to you.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (8 August 2007):

love-him agony auntHey bbe, it doesnt necessarily mean you are bi or a lesbien.. you could be.. just it means you have experimented and you like it. Good luck n have fun, there is no harm in goin out with her.. have fun bbe n mail me if u wanna talk x x

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A female reader, myp United States +, writes (8 August 2007):

myp agony auntnot necesarrily, u could be bi unless u jus dont care for guys at all

-Myesha

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A female reader, natalie :-) United Kingdom +, writes (8 August 2007):

Hi,

The fact that you have received and performed oral sex on another girl does not make you a lesbian, it just means that you have experimented.

A lot of girls and guys experiment at some point in their lives, although they may not admit it!

It is perfectly normal.

Obviously your friend really likes you, but what you need to decide is how you feel about her.

You've said you are attracted to her, and feel something for her.

Would you like to be her girlfriend?

Or do you just like the idea of something casual?

Either way, maybe it would be a good idea to talk about what happened with your friend, and decide what to do from there.

If you decide not to become your friend's girlfriend, be sure to let her down gently and not hurt her feelings.

I wish you lots of luck!

x

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A male reader, Karlos Omnis United Kingdom +, writes (8 August 2007):

Karlos Omnis agony auntIt doesn't mean you are a lesbian, you may have just been curious as to what you could do with the same sex.

It's also not unusual to wish to do things like that with close friends, although admittedly it happens opposite genders more often.

Ask yourself, are you attracted to women in general, or was it just your friend?

If its just your friend then you know its the feelings for her rather than for the gender, but if its women in general then yes you may be bisexual.

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