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writes: my friend was with her boyfriend for just under a year and in this time me and him became attracted to each other although we didnt do anything about it.Once they broke up he started phoning me and we became really close he told me he loves me and i feel the same and my friend found out about this so we are no longer talking.Me and him would really like to have a relationship but we dont want to hurt her as they still have something going on what do you think i should do as i cant hide my feelings for him much longer?
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 I agree its a bad move. What do you mean they still have something going on? He's having his cake and eating it too. Look sweetie, I know its possible to fall in love and be happy even if its not completely apporved by all but the fact is any relationship bourne from scandal like this isn't a lasting one. You'll also be seen as the bf stealer... I had a friend who was shunned from a lot of people because twice she went after her good-friend's exes. It just made her look bad, she got the nick-name sloppy seconds, I felt bad for her but she made those choices herself and when you hurt someone you are supposed to stand by through thick and thin like a real friend should, only bad things come of it. Don't let some guy break up a good friendship, the relationship will probably die out after all the thrill is gone... so it's not worth it. What makes you think he won't fall for someone else whilst you're dating him just as he did to her? Really think this over, think about your friend and whether or not you would want this to happen to you. Hope everything gets straightened out sweetie.
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reader, mwest +, writes (15 November 2006):
In my opinion, I think its a really bad move. Just wonder if you get together with this guy and things don't work out, then your left with nothing in the end. Just remember, good friends are always there and guys come and go. I know it may be hard to let go of this attraction that the both of you have for each other, but I don't see anything good coming from this. Sorry but this is just my opinion. I'm sure your friend would never do the samething to you, just keep that in mind. I'm here if you ever need more advice.
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reader, jack23 +, writes (15 November 2006):
 This sounds like a forbidden fruit situation. I believe that if you did get with him and tell everyone, the relationship would last long as the excitement would die.
There is no way to avoid hurting your friend, she will be upset by this information no matter who she hears it from. You need to think which out come serves the greatest cause, which is more important, for friends feelings or your feelings for him???
Remember it is likely to ruin your friendship with her so be prepared for that to happen. But if you are planning on acting on the attraction then tell her first, she deserves that atleast.
Really think about this one, there must be something thats making you feel this strongly for him, my hallucnation is that it just its just the adventure.
Hope it works out :)
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