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writes:Hi There I have asked questions here before which has been a lot of help to me. Now im about to face the biggest challange of my life and need as much help as possible to do itIm 24 And i am in a reletionship This is my first relationship. I know it might seem strange but i never had a bf until I was 23 I never felt i was missing out on anything until at 22 people started to make comments (just generally about how id never had one, what i was missing out on I guess teasing) So i started hanging out with this boy (we were never BF and GF) and in the end stupidely gave in and slept with him It didnt mean anything to me and even afterwards i couldnt work out what all the fuss was aboutAnyway some time later i met Jay He was gorgeous and the fact that i was the one he looked at made me wanna burst inside He is 8 yrs older then me We started going out two years ago and are still going out now We broke up for a bit last summer He has an ex who he had kids with and she wanted to try again He doesnt get to see his kids very often and they are his world so gave it a try After 3 months they hadnt got back together and he was with me againHe makes me feel like no other guy Just his smile can make me want to ezplode with joy I love him so much and was so happy this year when he tolf me he loved me too (He has never said that to anyone but his wx, so it was a big step for him)I gives me all those feelings that people told me i was missing out on when I was younger He is my true loveHe is also in the army and due to go on tour next month He will be away for sixth months and i dont know what the communication is like out there We text almost every day and talk lots and i dont know how ill copw without that communication with him (they are not alloud to take mobile phones out there)My heart feels like it is breaking and i cant consentrate on anything I just feel like im falling to peices He is going on leave before he goes I will get to see him for a few days but obv he is gonna spend most of it with kidsI dont know how to cope I am a worried at the best of times and feel like my world is crumbelling right now How do I cope without him till November Please help
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reader, CharmmyKitty  +, writes (27 March 2008):
 You should start by thinking about how lucky you are to have someone that you feel so strongly about! The fact that you've found your true love is a real blessing, and that's all you need to get you through this. Of course it will be hard that he won't be there with you, but you know he's going to miss you just as much as you'll miss him. And in the grand scheme of things, 6 months is nothing. I know this is trite, but absense really does make the heart grow fonder. As for making the time go by, try setting some goals that will keep your mind occupied. For example, if you like reading, try giving yourself the goal of reading 10 books before he gets back.
He'll be back before you know it!
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (27 March 2008):
 WRITE WRITE WRITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
stay busy with family, friends, church, work.......plan for you two when you can meet again.....gives you much to look forward to and the days drop off the calendar like flies.
Good luck and hang in there.
Gena
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