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writes:Hello everyone,I have been going through a very very difficult period in my life for a long time.Every aspect of my life keeps on falling apart: my career, family life, personal life, social life, my finances, my health. Believe me when I say it has been a nightmare and none of these are things that I have control of. But instead of improving things go from bad to worst and two years now there is no sign of improvement in any of these areas and no doubt it will continue to get worst (this isnt being pessimistic but factual based on what each of these things are all leading up to)If it was perhaps one area of my life or two I could find a way to balance, but the fact is every single area of my life is falling apart.So my question is that I am coming to a point now where I am getting depressed. I have been very strong and tried extremely hard to be a positive person throughout this all. But after 2 yrs without a break and uncontrollable things I see happening in foreseeable future, I am beginning to be concerned that my spirit is now breaking and stress and depression may hit me really really hard.(Dont mean to be rude but please dont give me advice based on my situations, or your judgement of my situation when you dont know anything about it by telling me I need to change my circumstances or leave the situations etc as no one knows what I am going through and BELIEVE me when I say there is not any option of just "changing my environment" or whtever. I am an educated person and if there was any such solution believe me I would have found it. Its a matter a house made of cards falling apart so to speak with very little control.....not looking for preaching on changing my situations...looking for advice on coping) ANYWAY Is there any advice on how to beat this depression or try to keep my spirits up despite everything awful thats going wrong? Also I have read and tried to practice positive energy/thinking etc. Positive attracts positive but so far it never manifested so perhaps I was doing something wrong. So helpful suggestions on that could be good too.THanks all.
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reader, Bev1228  +, writes (3 February 2011):
I felt as though I was reading something I may have written myself. I am looking for answers too. Every part of my life is falling apart too. the only thing I can offer you is an ear. I don't know when it will stop and I don't know if depression will hit you with full force because my depression come at me slowly. I feel as though I cry every day. i can't seem to get up off my couch. Two years ago, i thought I looked pretty decent but i got fat within a years time. I am looking all over the internet for some help. I live alone, so I have no one to talk to. but I really would rather be alone anyway, cuz i don't want to have to keep it bottled up becasue I am around people. I don't know which is worse. I'm sorry I couldn't help you but it's kinda weird that you helped me a little by making me realize that I am not alone in feeling as though my life is falling apart. Good luck in getting it together. I hope you make it.
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reader, failureateverything83 +, writes (9 December 2010):
hey brother/sister i have simular issues, but my problems began as a child, from people picking on me at school to my coach lagged on me to go to college so i missed my opportunity, fired from my job for reading a newspaper on the site,cannot stay at a constant job,shot last year and had twins right after i got out the hospital, lost all my cars in the same year trying to help, sometimes i just feel i cope no more, i try to avoid the thought but when reality set in i find myself cryin a river,i dont groom up anymore like i use to too, i fell into a serious depression. i know drink and smoke black and miles way more now than ever in my life, all i can say is man dont give up keep pushing because after the dark tunnel its alway light. have faith in the father YAHWEH or whatever you believe in, and live brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): I understand exactly what you are talking about. I am on a constant downward descent and have tried to change the process but it seems that there is nothing i can do. It's as if it were destined to happen snd I am putting up a great fight but am tired. If I love something, it gets taken away....people, cherished items, basis necessities of life (home, job), things I need (car). It feels as if God wants me broken and destitute. If this is my life then I don't want it. I can't do it anymore.
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reader, djapedo +, writes (13 December 2009):
Oh dear oh dear. I resonate with you all too well. I can sa that diet and exercise have been found to cure diseases some of which western medicine has no cure. Go to the basics vitamin b and d have been found to help depression majorly. I will admit for 2 solid months I was drugs and every day I was on every drug you can think of (some you don't know of). This was my way of dealing with the pain. in the end it made it worse but now i can start fresh. its looking more hopeful because I have nothing but i am not concerned with it. I am excited everyday to see just how much can change and for a while it had to be stagnant so that movement had meaning. With all do respect educated equates to retarded in comparison to an ability to reason or think straight properly speaking. It is obvious we must actually change our thinking if we want to change how we feel. if we want to change the world we must change ourselves. Think of what ou want and dont stop thanking the world for u even haveing the chance to have. wake up and say good morning god with a big smile everday for a month and tell me there's no dif.. I am coming from experience with this as I a year ago lost my car wife place and job all friends too - most -.. it's been a year and only now am i seeing how important it was that i loose it all so i could fall in love with the ove dying for it. m self.
you are an amazing person with amazing potential to be so honest - dont stop and dont stop caring.
work out when upset or depressed
feed ourself wholesome foods!
You will feel the dif - I promise!
moonson206@yahoo...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): Boy oh boy, do I know what you are talking about.
It is almost as if it is now out of your control. Everything you thought was sorted, gets turned upside down, to a point where you wonder what else is going to happen. When I loose everything which made my world and life tick, there are two things left now which are about to go, I have now, a new life. Going through this process feel very, very scary and unsettling. But,
I now know, in my heart, spirit and soul, that I am about to start a new jorney, don't know what it is yet, but it has happened over 3 years, without my imput or control, and it has brought my life to a place where change is unavoidable. I think it is going to be perhaps something which I have always been needing and looking for, but something took over and did it for me!
If you talked to me a month ago, I was where you are. Now I have opened myself up to the change and am starting at times to be excited about my future, which is huge. I encourage you to mail me and I can give you more understanding of the things I have experianced, in a similar way to you, and you will understand then, why this post is so important to me.
One thing I will say to you now, is that you have not and are not loosing your spirit nor is it breaking, it is evolving and changing in the way you perhaps need it too.
I firmly beleive you should hear my story. It may give you hope.
All the best.
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