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writes:My fiancee has a very close relationship with his sister if we are all together no one would be able to tell who is the sister and who is the girlfriend. I get very jealous as eveything he does with me he does with her and 9 out of 10 times when we go out she is with us am I being silly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): My boyfriend is the same way with his sister. When we are at parties, people generally believe that she is the girlfriend. They are always secluded together in a corner and I feel weird about it. Recently, she said some things to him about me that were utterly ridiculous and he took her side instead of thinking about what she said and backing me up. I was really upset about it all because: 1) He is my boyfriend and should be able to defend me and 2) I thought that his sister was really nice and that we were friends, so I felt betrayed by both. After this all happened, my boyfriend and I had a long chat, that is still continuing to this day. I figure that his sister is jealous of the time and energy he is now putting into our relationship and of the time he is now not spending with her. I don't feel that I can trust him to pick up for me still, but I am trying daily. As for his sister, it is still really strained between us, but hopefully, time will take care of it and we can become friends. I want that because this situation is very difficult for him, as he is in the middle.
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reader, Unique1  +, writes (27 June 2007):
Hey, what a person before me said about having family so close and noone could change that is fine. However, if she goes with you even 7 times out of 10 is little too much, even half the time in my opinion. Mmy bf spends a lot of time with his mother, and i used to get mad when it would interfer with our plans or our time.... but he told me that his mom is most important and i had to back off.... sure, he understood where i was coming from and we dont have that problem anymore, but i used to be bothered... I think that your guys sister is aroud little too much and let him know that you -respect- their close relationship but would like more time alone or you two with other people... not just her....also, even when your together, maybe you need to let him know that you would like little more attention or affection so its visible who is his gf and who is his sister...
Good luck...
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Surely sibling love is better than rivalary, i have a great relationship with my brother and i would never let anyone stand in the way of that and if you are not careful or you push too much you might make him chose and odds on he will chose his family.
There is nothing to be jealous about.
Take care.xx.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Chat to your boyfriend about how you feel but don't ask him to change the relationship he has with his sister. Ask him if you two can have some alone time, maybe go out to dinner or have a weekend away.
xxxxxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Yes you are being really silly.
You should be proud that your boyfriend loves his sister, and they are good mates.
I had a very close relationship with my brother when we were younger. His girlfriend at the time did not get this at all. She actually accused my brother of sleeping with me, and also told him it wasnt normal for him to hang around with me. What she forgot was that he was 2 years younger than me, and I had some pretty good looking mates. Of course he wanted to be with me, that meant he was out with at least 5 girls making a fuss of him...That's all.
You really dont have anything to worry about, he is just taking care of her. You could put yourself out and make friends with the girl.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Probably you are overreacting here.
His sister is a part of his Family.
If you cannot put up with this fact, you should not marry.
Jealousy is close to the feeling of possession, by the way.
Why you compare yourself to his sisters is not clear at all.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 June 2007):
 He's obviously very close to his sister but you certainly don't have anything to worry about there. It would be far worse if it was another female friend he was as close to. If you down his sister at all to him then he'll only stick up for her so never do that!
Why don't you sit with him one night and ask him if you and him can go somewhere WITHOUT the sister. Tell him you would just like it to be the two of you for a change. Although you like his sister, it would be nice to be alone with him sometimes and do something special... see what he says.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Are you sure that's his sister or just his other woman check it out.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I think u're a bit jealous but just to check ask some friends to tell u if u think this behaviour they have is normal I have an older brother and we do not do the things he does with his girl u know, it's nothing to do but we're not very closed to touching or kissing each other though we're spanish and we are expressive but not in a love affair way, good luck
lots of love
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