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writes:I've been dumped by my fiancé of five years. Is there anything anyone could suggest that might make people feel better?
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reader, Shalina +, writes (7 January 2011):
I could understand how confused you might be feeling right now. If you had truly loved this man and was there for him all those years then darling you should not have a guilty conscience and you definitely deserve better!! See it as a blessing in disguise!! atleast you found out the truth in the end....imagine continuing the relationship for another couple of years not knowing that he does not love and care for you!! I can relate to how you feel because my very first love (my fiance) had dumped me one week before our wedding. This was in August (5 months ago). We were together for 7 years!! he use to tell me that he loved me everyday even days before he dumped me!! The day that he left me he told me that he did not love me and hated being with me and that he felt relieved that the wedding was cancelled. I actually thought he was my soulmate!! Like you I was devastated and in shock. I never heard from him since. I was hurt but had no choice but to move on....it was time to concentrate on me!! you need to move on and you will. No one can really make you happy....you have to make yourself happy. You might be thinking that 5 years has gone down the drain!! but think positive...that you both had some good moments and you would cherish that but it did not work out and in time you would meet someone who truly loves and appreciate you. You could either lay in bed being depressed or stand up strong and start to live your life!! Don't let no man put you down again!! Remember that there are women out there going through worst...even being beaten up and killed! It is time to stand up and shine girl! I am sure that you are a wonderful person and deserve better than that. If I can do it then so can you :) Good luck and remain positive and strong X
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 The only way to feel better after being dumped, is to dump all those sad lonely feelings you are having right now.
If a guy dumps you, why should sit around remembering all that you had? He did not want you for what ever reason, so why should keep thinking about him for what ever reason.
Get rid of anything that reminds you of him, and remind yourself that there are a lot of men waiting for a hot, sexy, and now single woman like yourself.
You will take all the good things and tricks(wink) you have learnt in the last 5 years, and rock the next guy's world. Make him ask you "Who was so dumb to let you go".
It's not what you had... It's what's wait for you :)
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reader, mct007 +, writes (2 September 2010):
Just remember that you are not alone.
My fiance left me in May this year and its an awful feeling. I did the silly thing and locked myself away on my own with too much time to think about everything. It made the whole process ten times worse.
Like people have said on here, enjoy yourself, do things you never got to do with your fiance and spoil yourself to new stuff.
Its been just over 3 Months for me and I am gradually starting to feel better now.
The best thing to do is keep away from them and ask people not to bring them up during conversation. That made it easier for me.
All the best.x
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reader, jodie-alice-x +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Babe... There's never an easy or simple solution to getting over someone... In ways it is like grieving but over a lost relationship... Time will heal it. You are so young and you will find someone because you want to be loved and you will get it. Everything happens to a reason sweetheart. Enjoy your life, go on holiday, clear your head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Is there any way you could go away for abit, like for a couple of days to clear your head? Maybe go somewhere you went as a kid and really enjoyed yourself, you need to find 'you' again. Maybe take a trusted girl friend with you or your mum/sister for some emotional support. I would also turn off your phone and email for a couple of days so your not tempted to communicate with your ex. Good luck and please keep us updated. Your going to be just fine xo
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Buy expensive boots that you have always wanted but never could afford. And then get a new hairstyle. And top it all off with a vacation to the tropics. Well thats what I did anyways and it did help. I let the travel company just put me in whatever hotel they wanted on Rhodes, and was lucky to end up in a fabulous place very very cheap. I highly recommend it. Just use common sense if you travel alone and you will be fine.
You are young! You got many many more years of manhunting ahead of you! Take some time out to enjoy life for now, and you will soon find yourself back on your feet and on top of the world. Remember that time heals all wounds.
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reader, sizzling1  +, writes (2 September 2010):
it's going to be tough but you will be fine. try and go out with friends or get into that project you never seemed to have time for. you need to throw yourself into some sort of activity. don't stay indoors re-living the past, playing your fave songs as a couple, please don't go to fave places..it's a chance to re-invent yourself..it works!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 A timeless article... worth reading :)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
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