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writes: I live with a man who has a drink problem and we are set to get married. I love him dearly but every few weeks he tell me that he does not want to get married and that he is moving out. This is normally after he has had a few drinks. I really do not know where I stand and am finding it hard to continue in this relationship. His drinking has got better and he has been seeking help with this but I am afraid that if I carry on with the relationship he will bring me down and that I will not be strong enough to leave. I do not want to leave but I think this is the only way forward as I cannot longer trust him and find it hard to live with him. I love him dearly and don't know what to do. Can you help me? janet
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (5 February 2006):
Love him AND leave him
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Oh Janet, my dear... You are on the threshold of marriage and you are already finding it difficult to live with him,
you dont trust him, he has a drinking problem & you are miserable!
You have said it all... Does this look like the right circumstances to be starting a marriage in?
Remember... today's choices shape our destiny...
Marriage is not going to make all these problems go away.
Listen to your inner voice, check out all the red flags &
make choices that will ensure a better future for you!
Take Care & Be Happy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): I would break up or take some time apart. What if down the road you have children? It is very hard because you love him but I wouold tell him to get help first, then think about marriage after he is better. It will pay off in the long run.
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