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writes: Well I've fallen for a guy who already has a gf, but they were on a break when we started to hang out. Almost every day we have spent together and we kissed after a long while. He tells me he loves me and it's just that his gf's family and his family is involved too much in the relationship, which makes it really hard for him to break up with her. They have been together for 3 yrs but had a lot of problems.However, she has found out about me and related everything to his parents, which made everything messy. He broke up with her right then but she calls every day asking to get back together and his parents thinks they should work it out.Now he tells me he wants to be with me but things are too complicated and he just wants to be friends. He still calls and texts like normal and we still hang out.I, on the other hand, feel like I'm responsible for all of this... Maybe if I didn't come into the picture they would have recovered from their big break and be good. I don't know if still talking and hanging out with him is the best thing to do, cuz I don't want to keep him back from being happy with her. But then I love him and don't want to miss my chance with him, if there's any. Can you give me any advice on this situation? Thanks!
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 I think this guy just doesn't have the balls to stand up to his parents on this one...
He must stop letting other people tell him what to do when it comes to his love life.
After all, it is him that is in the relationship, not them.
This is not an easy situation, but he has to make the decision on his own, whether he see's a happy future with his ex or not.
It is by no means your fault that this has happened, he was not cheating on her with you, as they had broken it off.Don't beat yourself up about this.
But he has to make the decision himself & he needs to be true to himself & realise other people can't live his life for him.
I wish you happiness.
Take Care.
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