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writes:I'm really confused. I'm going to my half brother's wedding next saturday, and one of my other brothers was supposed to do a reading, but he has backed out of it because he is too nervous and he thinks the poem sounds girly. my dad has asked me to do the reading, but i am too nervous. i used to read in church when i was a child, and i did plays when i studied performing arts when i was a teenager, but i havent done that kind of thing for a long time. plus i havent seen some of my family memebrs for ages and i dont know many of my future sister in law's family either. Also, my brother who was going to do the reading got up and did a speech at my dad's wedding to our stepmother recently, and some family members rolled their eyes at him and mocked him for repeating himself, he did that because he was nervous, so i would be worried about people laughing at me, rolling their eyes or making rude comments but on the other hand, i would feel like i have let my father and my brother and his fiance down if i dont do the reading. it's a lot of pressure really. My future sister in law's sister is doing a reading too, so my dad thought it would be nice for her sister, and one of my brother's sisters to do a reading . he has another half sister as well. my dad told me to think about it, and he said he will bring the poem to me tomorrow if i want to practise reading it. i think he is trying to force me into it really, probably because he doesnt want to let my brother down, and he said it might look a bit odd if he has to do it ( my dad i mean ) , as he said he would have to if i dont. i dont know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): could i also ask, where are the readings usually done ? is that in the church or at some point during the reception ? i haven't been to a wedding since i was a child, so i'm not sure. also, me and my half brother arent very close, as he is 18 years older than me and has lived in another part of the country since he was a child, but i know he is still my brother biologically.
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reader, jodieleigh  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 you will be fine. just picture them naked. by the first line you'll be flying through it! they are your family and if you do make a mistake they'll be too drunk to remember! :) it'll turn out okay!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Just do it; it's for your brother's wedding. It's a nice gesture. Think about doing something nice for their big day.
I understand that you are nervous. However, those people who rolled their eyes at your brother were rude, insensitive and ignorant. Don't let them put you off; as you said, you don't know them, so really it doesn't matter.
What DOES matter is the fact that your bro and his fiance have a great day. I would LOVE my brother to read at my wedding. I think, especially as you are an adult, that you should put your worries aside and think about how it's a nice thing to do for your brother, and your dad to a lesser extent. For your other brother to back out because the poem was "girly" really sucks, actually. If a relative of mine did that I would be really upset. I think it's selfish.
Just relax, put your worries to one side and think about your brother. I'm sure you will be excellent, plus it sounds like you have good experience. Don't let nerves put you off.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Don't worry. You used to read in curch, and , more importantly, you studied performing arts and performed in plays. Once an actor, always an actor - trust me.
You are just having stage fright, once you start the redaing it will go away.
Everything will be fine.
And, even if there should be some glitch, what do you care ? You are there to do something nice for your half-brother ,not to win an Academy Award. People who should roll their eyes and criticize would just show how rude and ignorant they are, and you don't need to care about the opinions of this kind of people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): The only thing that will make you do badly is to be nervous. Relax, just keep on reciting it and practice in front of your family. Dont worry. Good Luck:]
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (5 September 2010):
 Hi :)
I did a reading at my mums wedding a few weeks ago and I was so so nervous on the days leading up to it. When the day came I was still really scared up to the point when I made it up to the alter and started reading. After that it was fine. And when I was done everyone was really lovely and complimentary too, it makes you feel really good.
Also, I went wrong! I lost my place in the reading and so just made it up until I found it again. Nobody noticed :)
Go for it!
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