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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm really driving myself crazy. I always have these irrational fears and worries about myself. Like that one day I am going to realize I am not in love, or one day I will wrong my girl. I also feel really guilty if I look at porn, look at another girl, or even talk to a different girl at a party or something (platonically, not hitting on her). I know these are normal human being urges and I've never had the urges to do anything that would hurt her.I have noticed it happens when I am alone, as in not talking or with her. I know thats needy to want to be together or talking 24/7 so I don't even want to try that, and I don't think that would help the real issue which seems to be my head.I think I feel like if I am not always gushing with love, and like always ready to have sex that something must be wrong, then my head plays these games with me. Nothing she has ever said or done has triggered this or anything. And I know its just a head game with myself so I don't let it effect me. But the fact that its in my mind frequently is starting to drive me crazy.Its like I am having trouble just taking in the comfort of having someone I love. Like I feel like I always need to be high on life, and ready to go at all times. If I'm not it means something is wrong. Just wondering if this is a common problem, or if someone else has dealt with this before.Also, I am completely happy with her, I don't desire anyone else. I'm human though and will notice a good looking girl, and porn I am not an addict or anything like that. That I will probably stop if it keeps causing me to feel like I am doing something bad.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 I am the female version of you. I worry that I am not allowed to have emotions, I should not be needy, I feel bad about spending money then worry not having enough dresses.
I think you have an irrational fear of losing her. You are just so in love with her and would make sure you are doing all the right things. While I feel comfortable sharing these fears with my boyfriend, you may not be doing the same. You are going to burn out trying to be perfect all the time, and might resent that role you take on yourself in the future. Do what you need to do to satisfy your human urges, but also allow your girlfriend to have her pms and her bad hair days. A woman may have only a few days out of the month which are symptom free.
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