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writes:i really like this guy, and i am looking for signs that he likes me too. i think he does but im scared i am imagining it just because i like him. he is a friendly with my ex so i cant just go on up and ask him, as its too soon my ex still wants me back and i dont want to hurt him that way, but i would like peoples opinion on the matter so that i could maybe ask him out once i feel my ex could handle it.he always looks me in the eye when we talk, and always uses my name when he speaks to me, he says hi to everyone and hi claire to me. i was out with a group of friends one time and someone asked him if i was his girlfriend and he put his arm round me and said no shes my wife, just as a joke i know, but would he do that if he wasnt interested slightly? his body language looks like he likes me, touching at times, leaning towards me, and his body facing me in a group of people, eye contact and things like that, but im scared that i am only seeing it because i am looking for it, maybe its only for seconds at a time and i am picking up on it because i want to see it. i would appreciate other peoples opinion, i dont want to make a fool of myself once the time is right, once my ex has accepted that it is over between us and we will be happy for each other to be with someone elsep.s. my ex and i have not had a bad seperation, but we have seperated before and i have taken him back, and i think he still thinks he just has to wait it out and i will let him come back again, but regardless of whether this other guy likes me or not, i am not taking him back again this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Ok... I'll agree. You'll be kind and nice and elegant. Less embarassement all around... Should work just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDiovanLestat, i know i AM a coward, the thing is though, me and my ex both work in a bar, and we are both friendly with a lot of people who work and drink in there, and the guy i like is one of a large group of regulars. I just couldnt hurt my ex like that cos i know it would this soon, its only been a few weeks. Also i couldnt face going to work and everyone knowing that i like this guy and he might not want to be with me because he is friendly with my ex too. this way if i just flirt and maybe make a move if he doesnt get the message then it will only be me and him that know about it - less embarrassing for me - and nobody gets hurt except me if he says no
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Coward... I liked my suggestion better. Quick, easy and direct... Anyhow. Take care of you and good luck. Our best wishes go with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice. looks like im going to have to brush up on flirting techniques and let him know that im interested.
I will definately try to make it clear that i will not be taking my ex back this time, and hopefully he will pick up on the flirting and make a move, then i wont have to ask him out hehe
thanks everyone,
gonna have to go look for flirting tips now heehee
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reader, malvern +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Lucky you, he's clearly interested but he's just being cautious because of your boyfriend. He probrably doesn't want to end up looking a fool if you go back to your ex. When the opportunity presents itself just let him know your feelings about your ex. Then I'm afraid you'll have to wait to see if he makes a move after that.
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reader, jabey +, writes (22 May 2008):
the signs are all there. This guy obviously fancies you.
P|roblem is then you both are connected to your ex. Which may make it hard for this guy to make a move. I suggest you heavily flirt with him and majorly give him the signs you are interested in him. most men will act on this whatever. Ensure that he is aware you are never going to rekindle with your ex, you can do this by dropping loads of hints about your new single life.
|When I like a guy I| do all the flirting then drop into conversation casually, how it would be nice to have a nice man take me out, they usually take the hnt and eventually ask. L|et the man do most of the chasing though, they like to do that it keeps up their man hood |!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): From what you describe it sounds like he likes you. But whether or not he has romantic feelings or not, only he can know. You won't find out unless you ask him, and as he knows that you do not want to date at this moment, it is unlikely he will show you any signs that you care.
You sure you don't want your ex back? Why not tell him about the feelings your developing for your new guy, ask him for his help. It may hurt him, but it will show once and for all that there is no chance of you getting back together, and although he may be angry it might prod him into giving up hope and getting on with his life, thus leaving you the opportunity to start to get to know this guy better.
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