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writes:hi everyone. I'm in a very difficult situation. ok here goes. i have just split up with my bf of 4 years a few weeks ago but was still in love with him. every since i met him his best friend became my sort of best friend because we have a very similar sense of humour and there is a sort of spark there.at the weekend my ex's friends told me that he had went with another girl just 5 days after we split and i am devestated.even though he was single i just didnt think he would do that.anyway his best friend made me laugh all night, as he always done and we stayed up drinking. then totally out of the blue he tried to kiss me. no this man is married so i straight away said no even though i really wanted to.now i am a bit relieved because this has taken my mind of my ex, but now i cant him out of my head do u think its just a rebound thing? i dont know because there has always been the spark. i tihnk im just getting myself into a situation i really shouldnt. please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your advice! it raelly helped me see what an idiot im being! lol, thanks again xx
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reader, lupa-k +, writes (24 April 2007):
Wouldn't be a good move to get involved I don't think. Sounds to me like he has overstepped the boundaries of friendship there and to go down that avenue would most likely complicate things further with your ex, regardless of what he is doing.
Secondly, the fact that he is married himself is just asking for more trouble, he's hardly marking himself down as the most trustworthy candidate alive.
Give things time to heal after your last relationship, and surround yourself with friends who will be just that for you
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reader, accused  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 Leave this man alone! First off if this so called dual friend was being a "friend" or even a good husband he would have never been trying to kiss you... Let alone drinking with you all night..... You truly need to give yourself time to heal over your ex... On top of that if he is married and tried to kiss you, then what if you and him were to get into a relationship? What happens when the next friend needs a shoulder to cry on? Is he going to be there for them too? Trust me Leave him where he belongs, with his wife.... you have enough to deal with not to add a "FRIENDLY-KISSABLE-MARRIED-MAN" to your list... Best of luck and please keep me posted.......
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