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*iffy09
writes:I was with my ex for 5 years he cheated on me 3 times but I love him and still ended up back with him. We got married last year and I got pregnant. He left me for other women when I was 2 months prego. He told me thay it was a mistake to leave me and thay he love me and that he wanted to work things out with me. Until I saw a picture on my space of him with the girl I change my phone #. When I had my daughter he put the divorce paper and he wanted joint coustody of her. When he was never intersted in her in the 1st place. So he said so many bad things about me. I found out that his new girlfriend is 4 months pregnant. He started calling after he found out I have guy friends. He started to talk dirty to me telling me he dreams about me. We started to have sex and I don't feel bad at all cause he did the same thing to me with her when I was pregnant. Does he love her?? They leave together and she is having a baby but I also have a new born with him and we know each other for 10 years and his only know her for less then 1 year. Does he still loves me??
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reader, tiffy09 +, writes (10 July 2009):
tiffy09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!!! It really help me in opeing my eyes!!! Cause if he did loved mme in the first place he wouldn't have left me alone pregnant. And the fact that he just doesn't want anyone to know. Should I tell his girlfriend??oh and she is such a bit** and she has a 1 year old boy with other guy.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 July 2009):
 The issue here is not whether or not he loves you. WHY do you want to be with someone who cheats on you multiple times, and cheats with you on this other girl. You being part of this little game really doesn't make your behavior any better than this other girls. You reduced yourself to their level by taking part in cheating. Instead of being the number one woman in his life, you are now the number two woman. Whatever reason you have for doing it doesn't excuse or justify the choice to take part in cheating.
You deserve much more than he's been giving you. Stop focusing on him and find someone who will treat you and your child with love and respect.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 i don't think he ever really loved you i don't think he actually knows the meaning of love!
you've got a child with him he used you because he still sees you as his property!
he called you up because he found out you got guy friends... so what?
he can't stand you moving on because he always wants you around if his new girl doesn't give him what he wants he'll come to you.
he's telling you EVERYTHING you want to hear from he's been thinking of you to he loves you always blah blah!
it's bulls*** if you ask me!
he knows you still have strong feelings for him and always will so he knows how to play with you he knows that if he tells you what you want to hear you'll take him back.
and as thatgothgirl20 says he used you you said you don't care because he did that to you with her but he was using her like he's using you!
he doesn't give a crap about either girl if you ask me.
harsh i know but he doesn't look at the evidence!
he left you when you were two months pregnant what sort of guy is that!!!
then he comes back to because he finds out you got guy friends!
sweety do yourself a HUGE favour! don't bother contacting him or anything! i know it'll be hard because you've got a kid with him but he's a complete LOSER! he thinks he's all wicked because he goes back and forth between two girls?
eugh he'll end up alone the way he carries on no doubt!
Hope this helps sorry if any sounds harsh towards you it's not it's HIM he needs to man up a bit.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Lets do a little roleplay.
Me: Tiffy, I love you. *punches tiffy in the face*
Tiffy: Ooh, he loves me, I am so happy! *spits out a tooth*
To paraphrase: with love like this, who needs hate.
He cheated, knocked you up, left you, got another girl pregnant, is trying to cheat on her and you are putting up with it all because he says he loves you.
Words are cheap, actions are what count and his actions show... actually it doesn't matter what he feels about you. If this is his way of showing love, then you are better of without it.
Love is not a magic potion that makes everything alright.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 You said "I don't feel bad because he did the same thing to me.." Okay???? Did you think that you were using him back or something? Because you weren't He was using you then and he has been using you now for some time. He may have loved you in the past. I doubt that he loves you any more.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Why on earth does it matter if he loves you?This guy is clearly scum. Not just a good guy that has made a few honest mistakes and thus is worth considering forgiving, this guy is lacking some basic, necessary morals.So that aside, I will say - no, he doesn't love you.He's using you for sex, just as he used someone else for sex while you were pregnant. Surely, by your logic that should mean he loves that someone else too?If he loved you, he would be with you and your child. He would be a part of both of your lives willingly and fully, for more than just sex.It bothers me that you don't feel bad. Don't allow his morals to define your own. Do you really want to be the kind of person that cheats on the partner of a pregnant woman? Or any woman for that matter?How can you really LOVE someone that treats you like that? What is there to like, or respect about that person? I suspect it is need that draws you to him. Move on, forget about him and in time find someone who makes you want to be a better person, not worse.
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