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26-29,
*nythingyouwant
writes:Dear Cupid, Recently, I went to my friend's church. I met a guy there. Let's call him Bob. He gave me his number after the service and ever since We've been talking. At first, things went great. He is such a sweetheart. Always calling me cute names, telling me he wants to hold me, and being there for me. I met him once by our school, and he even met my parents! Although I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend, he said he'll wait for the right age. He took me to the movies, and we hit it off great. He cuddled with me and I even got my first kiss. He even told me he loved me. Two days later, Christmas Eve, he texted me before bed. He told me he didn't love me anymore, and that he was still in love with a girl he cheated on eight months ago. He said he was giving up on me because we couldn't see each other a lot, and because he can't have the girl he cheated on. He ripped my heart out. The next day, He texted me. He said he was feeling sad and I offered help. I feel like I forgave him too easily. He says he's trulysorry, but when I ask him to prove it to me, he says how. When I reply and say if you are really sorry, you'll prove it, he only says okay. He says he'll take me anywhere and love me. Everyone is telling me to move on and forget him. They say he doesn't deserve me. Last night, his brother took his phone and texted me. He said I was the only person Bob was texting judging by his inbox. I thought, maybe Bob is truly sorry.... I don't know what to do. I'm so depressed and my body has gone into fatigue. I'm always tired, never interested in anything, and rarely hungry. I want to make things work between us. I like him still. I just feel as if he got off the hook too easily and that he'll walk all over me again. I don't know what to do. I still like him, but at the same time, I'm worried he'll take advantage of my quick forgiveness and hurt me again. Should I move on as hard as it will be, Or does he deserve asecond chance? I don't know how to deal with this. Thanks.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 The problem is with not answereing phones and not replying. you will end up with a stalker. one thing girls still don't get! you better of being straight to the point and just tell him to bugger off!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 December 2009):
This guy cheated on his ex girlfriend, who no doubt dumped him for it, then dumped you on Christmas Eve. He wasn't worthy of a first chance to be honest. Men are great at saying things, but our actions speak louder than words, and this is how you really get to know a man. He said he loved you, yet we now know he really loves the ex he cheated on, and was willing to dump you on Christmas Eve. That's pretty damn harsh stuff from a man! Is he worth a second chance? Not in a lifetime. You can do much better than a guy who sees you as second best. Go and find a guy who really loves you instead.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (29 December 2009):
o\Okay your only a youngin so ill tell you a trick.
Often withought knowing people throw out fishing lines. now lets think bOb is going fishing and you are a fish. he thrown out his fishing lines and you have bitten his bate and he reeled you in. then he simply threw you back out again, only to make you feel a little sadened. Often the sadness makes you want to go back because you liked the tast of the bate in the first place.
So yeah your riends are totally right, and he's simply playing mind games and if he really truly loved you he would do everything in the entire world to be with you right now ... not winging about a past love he cheated on. not to mention do you still wanna be with him after he has a bad track record ... cheating? could have been you hey? and if he really loved her do you think he would have cheated? no she's just getting rid of him because he's now a cheating looser and you were the one to make her feel jealous that he had moved on ... he was probably hoping she would realise that she wanted him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Sweetie, that is why you are not allowed to have a boyfriend.
I think you need to chalk this up to a nice first kiss and forget about him. Talk to your friends, spend time with your mom a bit :) Write down stuff if it hassles you. Do something that you have always liked doing.
You sound like you are doing fine by not trusting him again... you are on the right track. He has made it messy for no real reason so you do deserve someone better. I think he was trying to pressurise you into seeing him more(after telling you that he'd wait for the right age). How did you guys end up going to the movies if you are not allowed to have a boyfriend?
He sounds older than you. What does this mean - "take me somewhere and love me"?
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