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*confused2think
writes:The guy I have like 4ever is dating some freshmen (we are juniors)that he only met a week ago, its obvious hes rebounding from his last gf cause they only broke up a month ago. I stayed out of his last relationship and let it take its course but this time I cant wait it out. I know its wrong and I dont care, so any tips on how to break up your crush and his rebound?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (30 December 2009):
 I was not trying to judge you either. I know it is very upsetting for you, but you really are investing an enormous amount of energy in thinking about this boy - and making yourself miserable.
Look: if he does break up of his own accord, with the girl he is now seeing, THEN you might consider inviting him to go have coffee (lunch, perhaps?) with you and see how he reacts. If he's agreeable you'll see how it goes. I would advise you, however, against laying anything hot and heavy on him while having coffee about your feelings! Just be pleasant and friendly so that he can see you're a nice person and good company.......
As I said before, in the meantime, turn your mind as much as you can to other things and don't focus so strongly on him.
You now have some ideas for a plan of action if he and his gf do break up.......hopefully you can take some comfort in that, and relax a bit.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2009):
You're not being judged. You're just setting yourself up for more heartache. If he wanted you, he would be with you.
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reader, 2confused2think +, writes (29 December 2009):
2confused2think is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know its wrong but I can't help it. He doesn't know how I feel cause everytime I get the courage to he has a new gf! I'm sorry you all think I'm an awful person but all is fair in love and war! Don't judge me so quickly!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (29 December 2009):
You'll get no suggestions from me on how to make your crush break up with the girl he's now seeing.
Try to accept the fact that if he wanted to date you, he would have - disappointing as it is to think he chose not to.
There are plenty of other men around you can take an interest in, and who would like to get to know and see you.
See what else (apart from guys) you can get involved with -friends, family, your studies, activities you enjoy, etc.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 December 2009):
You can't for two reasons. One, he will hate you for it when he finds out you broke it up. And two, because he's into this girl and not you. He might be on the rebound, but imagine if you break them up and he does come to you. Sounds great, except you will be a rebound too and it won't be long until you're dumped for someone else. I'm afraid you have to move on from him, because he just doesn't fancy you.n Your Mr Right is still out there, so find him instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Maybe he would have asked you out when he broke up with his ex......if he was interested in you. You're wasting your time.
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reader, ChantillyMarie  +, writes (29 December 2009):
How dare you. You have no right to break them up! Would you like it if someone tried to break you and him up. IF You ever dated him in the first place? I didn't think so, so I'm pretty sure you're just going to have to wait it out, I'm not giving you hints on how to break someone up, and if you still carry through with it, you're the kind of people I despise.
If he likes her better than you, that's tough luck, that's life. People are always making descions to pick someone over someone else, and to be honest I'm pretty sure you can't kill people relationships over it, that's jealousy, I think you need to talk about your feelings with him, and tell him about it, not try to do hurtful things. Do you really think he'd apprechiate you asking for this advice on the net?
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