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writes:I have my ex-husband who told he doesnt love me anymore with no reason and now he wants us to have a second child outside a relationship and he is extremly proud. and i still love him. What do i do to get him back?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 We're still waiting to understand why he's worthy of trying to get back? Any update?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): agree with everyone else here. It's a terrible decision to bring a child into a relationship that is unhappy or non-existent. it's selfish too because it does no good for the child, only to serve the ego of the parent(s).
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (17 January 2013):
I am sorry to tell you that everything ImmortalPrincess says is quite right: having a child outside of the relationship will be a disaster. You don’t say how you feel about having a child, only that you want him back. Well unfortunately having his child isn’t going to save the marriage. If he wants the child outside of the relationship, he’s given you a clear sign that it’s over. With his attitude and total lack of consideration for you, this man will only hurt you so it’s better to come to the painful realisation now that it’s finished, and that you need to move on.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 January 2013):
Can you explain to us exactly why you love an egotistical selfish man? And how having him as a father is a good thing for your child? Please list all his good qualities.
If you can't, I'd say it's time to move on and make your own happiness without him. You'll wake up some day and realize you are far better off without him.
Good luck.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (17 January 2013):
 If he doesn't love you, why would you even want him back?
Anyway, ImmortalPrincess is quite right: do not have another child with him (you'd be bringing it up by yourself, and surely you don't want that?).
So: NO to sex with him and have no further contact with him!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (17 January 2013):
 If he doesn't love you, I don't understand why he wants to have another child with you.
Contrary to what some people believe, bringing a baby into an already stressed out, loveless marriage, will not salvage your relationship.
If he does not love you or want to be with you, DO NOT have another child with him. That is the worst thing you can do - no only to the child but to yourself as well.
You can't make him love you. Move on with your life and concentrate on the child you already have.
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