| A
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: Hi everyone I'm here to get advice and not to be judgedYes me and my boyfriend are both adults and been together for 4 years. We are both working however we both live in different towns.We had sex however I took the morning after pill but I guess it didn't work. I found out today that I'm pregnant however, we are not ready to have a family yet as we are still saving to get married, house and etc. We both came from strict families so I'm confused, I don't know whether to keep this baby or not. I haven't told anyone but him. What shall I do? I'm scared of abortion if thats gonna be one of the options and I'm still not ready to be a mother as well.plz I need your advicethnx
View related questions:
abortion Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 Best of luck, OP x
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday I realized that my bf wants to keep the baby and to be honest I don't mind as well cuz I have already felt how much I will love this baby. My bf is the type who does not ruin surprises, e.g. anniversaries, birthdays etc so I'm thinking he might ask me to marry me. He have already been saying that he is sorting things out? What are they? Don't know yet but I will keep you updated...
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone your answers helps alot and i will keep you updated with my situation xx
...............................
A
female
reader, deirdre  +, writes (19 January 2013):
hello, I come from a strict family so I can imagine how you are feeling in this predicament and I think anyone who judges you is horrible. you need to go to Brook Centre as you are under 25 and they will help you find a non judgemental unbiased pregnancy counsellor or organisation who will help you reach a decision. do this ASAP as you dont have much time and good luck in whatever you choose x
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): As soon as you can get some professional help and advice. That is most important. Then you are able to judge the situation and make your decisions. Don't be afraid, make an appointment with your doctors or clinic now.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2013): Get married and have the baby and work it out from there! that is the only good option.You have been together for 4 years. so your quite steady together and you will have a good marriage.
...............................
A
female
reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (17 January 2013):
Hello
Just to add to Person12345's excellent advice, a good place for you to seek counselling since you're in the UK is the Brook Centre:
http://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-centre
http://www.brook.org.uk/pregnancy/could-you-be-pregnant/what-if-i-am-pregnant
Have a good look through the website, it has lots of information. I hope you and your partner find it helpful.
No one there will judge you.
Book an appointment sooner rather than later, and all the very best whatever you choose to do.
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345  +, writes (17 January 2013):
 No one can tell you what to do because we don't know how you will feel after you choose. Only you can predict that.
What you should do is 1) make an appointment to talk to a family planning clinic. One that actually offers abortion so that you know they will be unbiased. There are clinics out there that exist just to scare women out of abortion. 2) it would be a good idea to sit down alone and visualize each scenario. The three options are abortion, adoption, and motherhood. Think through them and how you'd feel with each. Would you feel more upset after having an abortion or giving up the baby to another family? How would your life be impacted if you became a mother?
Ultimately this is a decision that you have to come to because you are the one who this is happening to. It is your body and you are the one who decides what you do with it. As a reminder, if you choose abortion you do not have to tell your family anything has ever happened. They never even need to know that you were pregnant. So you shouldn't base your decision on whether they would judge you for having an abortion.
...............................
|
