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writes:Well, me and my ex split about 3 months ago now and he in another relationship(with a girl who lives half way around the world.) I've just started seeing someone also. Though we are taking it very slow, I can't help but compare it to my previous relationship with my ex. It is making me miss him, and to make things worse he removed me from his friends list, and we hardly ever talk anymore. I know that we will never get back together, as he is planning on movin over for this girl. I still want to be friends, but I don't even know if that possible now. Any advice is welcome
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I don't think one can be friends with their exs . Check out http://sophiasparx.blogspot.com
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): He is doing it the right way. You need to move on, forget about him and put 100% in your new relationship. What can you gain from trying to get in touch with him? It is over. If you two had kids then maybe keep in touch for the sake of them, but no, move on and forget. Have your memories. we often think back and only pick out the very best that we want to remember, the truth is, there were some crappy bit as well that we choose not to remember. Move on.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): You are still hankering for your ex, even though you are with someone else. He is wise to break off as it will be better for him, his new girlfriend and yes, you. As long as he stays in regular contact you are likely to miss him more, so in the long run you will find it easier this way to move on.Try also to think about the new person in your life and whether or not you have anything to offer him.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 February 2008):
 It takes two to be friends and if one of you doesn't want to and wants to move on then you have to respect that and leave it.
With regards to comparing your current bf to your ex, this combined with the fact you seem upset by this would suggest to me you're not completely over your ex.
But then that's just a guess on my part. You know how you feel better than we do.
I wish you the best of luck and let us know how you get on :)
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (13 February 2008):
 you threw him a bone, he didnt want it. You did your part now just move on and let him be him.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 You can't be friends with someone who is not interested. Focus on yourself and your new boyfriend. Of course you compare them to each other, that's how you find all the traits in a guy that are important to you and all the ones that aren't. Helps to identify Mr. Right when he comes along. Good luck, honey.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Hi
I would let it go, especially if he is moving away. He probably removed you from friends list because she wasnt comfortable with it. And thats fair enough really. She will and should come first.
If he doesnt want to be mates, why do you so badly?
Maybe its a bit too soon to be starting a new relationship.
C xxxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Let time decide for you.You have stretched out your hands to him but he is not interested. Thats all you can do for now till one day when your path crossed or meet again.
He thinks you are history.But life is full of mysteries and nobody knows what will happen in the future. Keep your fingers crossed.
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (13 February 2008):
 it seems like this boy wants to forget and move on. Yes it wuld be hard for you, this happened to me it took a while but i managed with the help and support of my friends and family. try and forget and try a better relationship with new guy. good luck
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