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writes:Do I go back to South Africa or do I stay with the man I love? I came to London with my two children one of which's father lives in London and we live with him. I was with him 14 years ago and we sadly parted. Now we are back in his life fourteen years later and he treats me badly. He has another daughter from a previous relationship and we always have to take a back seat when it comes to his other daughter. He tells me he hates me, that I am fat, a walrus was what he called me where in fact I am not fat at all. I am slender. We are about to celebrate our 1st year anniversary and I told him that I have a surprise for him on Fri night. Yesterday his ex phoned to ask what time he is fetching his daughter on Friday. He said he cannot have her this weekend and his daughter burst into tears. I have had to give up the hotel booking because we are going into London to meet with his daughter who is 10 for three hours before she goes home with her mother. He has given me the silent treatment since last night and this morning he said why don't we pick his daughter up on fri and spend the weekend together? I cannot believe that he is giving up our anniversary plans. He can see her any weekend he wants. When I confronted him he said he doesn't like me. Why don't I fly back to South Africa? That hurt me so much. What should I do? Does this man feel anything for me at all? Please give me your advice. Please.
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reader, [email address blocked]  +, writes (20 May 2009):
ibelieve that you should do what ur heart tells you to do always follow your heart. your heart always has the answers and will let you know the right answer. don't deceide to quick you may make a bad decisssion
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I think you should kick his sorry ass to the kerb. He you give this guy an inch and he takes a mile. What has he done to make this relationship the second time around work? The answer, nothing. It makes me wonder why you ever got back with this guy who you broke up with fourteen years ago, surely you would have moved on by now. He does not deserve your love and you don't deserve being treated apallingly.
I think after fourteen years he has changed and is not the man you fell in love with all those years ago. If a man told me go back where I came from, I would have told him to go back to the stone he had just crawled from.
Make a life for yourself away from him now, you did it fourteen years ago you can do it now. Dusky xxx.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 The writings is on the wall and yet you cannot see it. The person you loved 14 years ago is dead . He is not the same anymore. Times have changed.
Your love for him is only a one way street.
Do you think you can make him love you again?
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