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writes:My ex cheated on me in september, and the girl he was with told me in december. he denied it.. i finaly got it out of him when i had solid evidence. i stayed with him, but broke up with him in january until march.... we were not really broken up, we were still sleeping together etc. He really, really really loves me. a lot. when he slept with the other girl, we had been going out 7 months. He told me he loved me by then, but we didnt say it regurualy. the girl he slept with is his ex. they have a 9 month old kid. she cheated on her boyfriend when she slept with him. she told me to forget about it because they were both very drunk and it didnt mean anything and he didnt even love me at the time. im confused.Im just worried. do you think hes worth it? i love him. he thinks its different because they have a history.although i love spending time with him, each time i have a few drinks on me i go insane and scream at him. advice?also he is ten years older than me. is the age too much?
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (9 April 2008):
bottom line is that if you never found out that your bf was sleeping with his ex, you wouldn't feel any less loved right now
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (9 April 2008):
"if he love you he wouldn't sleep with another woman". Total BS! Sex for a man has no emotional premise. A man could sleep with a woman he thinks is a total Bitch and still enjoy it. when he's with his baby's momma and she's skippin around in tight cut off shorts while the baby is a sleep, he's seeing her sexy ass and remanising on who it felt to be all in that ass. If his will is weak he will give in and sleep with her. IF you don't feel loved by the way he treats you then dump him. But there's no garauntee the next guy will not do the same, or love you the same.
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reader, cari  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 ok il try not to sound too harsh.sum people ar gonna say "if he loved u he wudnt hav cheated on u" nd dey might be right but i really think u sud give him a 2nd chance if u really love him as much as u say u do but make it clear jus because hm nd his ex hav a child 2gether and history he has not the right to go and sleep with her,tell him if he screw u around one more time u will not give him another chance to fuck u around again!been drunk is not an excuse either,no matter how drunk u are u know what ur doin the thing is u dont care..well tell him to learn how to care and appreciate u or u are gone coz u dont need dis hun,ders a plenty of fish in the sea!so ye give him another chance(only if u really luv him tho coz otherwise hes not worth it)but dont be too easy on him,show him if he dusnt change he might lose u and this time 4 gud!i mean he cant have u both!hope it helps lots of love xxxxxx
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reader, quarky +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Hard as it may be, I'd say move on. There are (believe it or not) guys out there who would never do that to you and you deserve no less.You'll probably always have doubts if you stay with him-what kind of relationship would that be? Best of luck
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reader, vsnod +, writes (8 April 2008):
 I would move on if I were you. Sometimes people can make a mistake and be forgiven, but the fact that he was not honest with you and then when you gave him hard evidence he made excuses for what he had done. I would say he is a lost cause. I don't think the age is so much a factor than the fact that he has not been treating you right.
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reader, destiny2008 +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Ok his says to you he has a history with this women and a child but to be honest that does not give him the right to go and sleep with her if he loved you so much he would not sleep with anyone else it will be hard for you but i think you should move on and find someone that will respect you and love you for who you are, he might do it again to yu and you don't realy need the stress thinking that he is going off with her or anyone else behind your back and you will always be miserable it will be hard but try and move on you will be happier in the end good luck.
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