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writes:this may sound a stupid question but -my ex partner had bullied and harrassed me to leave our joint home and now he has recently bought me out of the property.He has been married twice before and cheated on each of them, and he has done the same to me with 2 women (that i know of)he is now saying i made his life hell for the 6 years we were together and we were over before I had any idea we were over.I keep thinking i must be awful to live with now.Also, this situation of him asking me continuously to leave my home, bring another woman in when i was out and try to blackmail me with money he had promised me etc if i didn't do what he asked,and also me having to find a new job as i was due to be made redundant, has gone on for 4 months and i do know i have talked about it alot.Now someone who i thought was a friend and had arranged a night out with asked me not to talk about my situation - my situation is not over yet, as i am still living with my mother, and my new house isn't ready yet.I wont be talking about this once i am sorted but now i feel crap because ex said it was all my fault he met someone else, and this other person who i thought cared has blatently made it obvious they are fed up of it (as am i, but it's in my head even if i don;t talk about it) talking has helped and maybe i have gone on alot - maybe i am a really crap person who deserves what i am getting now
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): i am going through the same thing, why do exs, make you feel so shit, i have got a child involved, please help
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Good for you hunni!
He will die a lonely old man who's hated by any female he put through what he put you through!
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reader, Rock chick +, writes (5 August 2007):
Rock chick is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is a prat and although it is still hurting me, he is potentially going to be a sad lonely old man.
If i was so bad to live with why didn't he tell me years ago? I only became bad to live with when he decided he wanted his new catch in his bed in our house,
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (4 August 2007):
You have taken the first step and realised that as much as a part of you still may believe you are the one int he wrong a part of you know it isn't true.
An abuser/bullies way of getting away with what they do is to groom their victim in to thinking they are the person in the wrong, or they deserve what is being done to them. And even though I don't know you I'm bloody sure you didn't deserve what he did!
I'm sure you are NOT a nightmare to live with. We all have little quirks about us that irritate others but he has TWO failed marriages and has cheated on you. I think he wins the trophy for being the one in your relationship that was hell to live with especially seen as he was bullying you aswell.
You have had your confidence knocked by him but you will get it back and not think ever again that you were the one in the wrong!
How can it be your fault he met someone else? That's like saying it's my fault that he's a bully. He needs to wise up and grow up and stop treating others like dirt. You hunni are well shot and are worth so much more than a bully like that!
I would distance yourself for now from the person who has asked you not to talk about your situation as they seem to have made you a bit depressed and you don't need to be feeling like that right now. Can you talk to your mum about how you are feeling? I always find a good cry with my mum helps all things bad in the world look a tiny bit better :)
Good luck hunni!
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Hi babes,
Firstly WELL DONE YOU!!!!!!
Getting away from this BULLY, you ,nor does any other woman for that fact need a man ,(opps sorry wrong word) PIG like this in their lives.....
He has two failed marriages, cheated on you with two women you actually know of and now your allowing this PIG to play on your mind, you are honestly believing its you, WELL......NO.....NO.....NO........hun, its not you the proof is in the pudding TWO FAILED MARRIAGES, he will always treat women like this, what a lucky escape you have had, think about it babes.....
Your not awful to live with HE was........, he blackmailed you about money as well as cheating.... he is making my blood boil right now!!!!!!!
You have got to stop feeling crap about yourself, you deserve only best in life and you certainly wasn't getting it, go out with ya mates enjoy yourself have some self worth hun, you deserve that, don't linger over the past he is now the past, this should make you strong now not weak look forward to meeting a real man one who cares about you no matter what, one who adores you and loves being in your company thats what you desreve for yourself so go out their GIRL, let your hair down put that lovely smile on your face and I know you can do it, have FUN, life is too short.......
Look in that mirror every morning and say to yourself, "I love you, his loss my gain I'm going out there to live now" face that exciting world and enjoy every minute of it, good and the bad ,as the bad teaches us many things in life that makes us strong...
Good luck honey
Love Donna xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): this ex of yours is the one in the wrong she clearly is not write in the head
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